Millyd – oh sweetie.....I have lost my libido completely and even if I had it, I would be too scared and too exhausted to do anything anyway. I try to be creative for DH, so we both can share intimacy, other than just through BD'ing. I know it's hard for him... but maybe that's why he's excited now and saying only 11 weeks to go.... I'll bet before 11 weeks seemed like an eternity, whereas now, it seems such a short time. DH and I are both hoping that when the stitch comes out at 38 weeks, that we might be able to (medically) up to ( libido) some BD. Probably not, but got to have something to look forward to.

But really the issue you're talking about is how to stay connected when UTD and how its easy for men to feel marginalised by pregnancy and for you to still feel attractive and desirable. There are ways to work through the minefield..... hope you work something out....... you are gorgeous, you know, it's just it doesn't feel like it if you're tired/sick/adjusting to changes....


SammyP – how are you doing? Are you feeling better? Sometimes the worry in pregnancy is a curse – we worry if we feel a particular way, we worry if we don't. It's good to see your ticker moving along.

Kit – do you have your scan date? It's hard to make those calls sometimes isn't it? Having to re-tell your experiences..... it's all a lot better once you do it.... I promise.

Ric – oh sweetie – I would LOVE to come for a cuppa and a chat..... I have had a really tough week. Thankyou so much for asking after me. It seems I become insular when the going gets tough. I had some minor but annoying reactions to the steroids I had to help bubs lungs mature ( a precaution in case bubs is prem), and then I focused on prem labour and also what I was and wasn't feeling, for myself and bubs, and then of course in the way of these things ( probably due to the insomnia) I was thinking about some pretty intense personal issues. All in all – I was lonely, bored, scared, frustrated, anxious and just feeling physically a little odd. So this past week? I have basically done nothing but feel sorry for myself and watch tv. I have shunned calls – letting them go to voicemail. Last night I decided that my own happiness was my own doing and wasn't anyone else's responsibility and I had the “power” to help myself. I was starting to resent people for not “taking more of an interest in me”. So I made a to do list – calls to make, things I wanted to do – put some books on hold at the library, recipes, BB etc. And I've done them and am feeling much better. So the timing of you asking about me, is just divine. THANKYOU, it really means a lot to me.

How are you going? The shorts to that movie look good. I am too scared to go to the movies but have been watching my fair share of DVD's. 10 weeks … time goes so slowly but so quickly, all at once.

Ashie – CONGRATULATIONS on your pregnancy... and welcome. Sweetie – pregnancy after loss is really hard. If the crazy lady comes to visit you like she is, that's ok... I still look for signs of impending doom.. I doubt those thoughts will ever be far away. I hope that your levels are rising and that that gives you some reassurance. Oh, also, INSIST, on getting that second opinion..... don't let the Dr fob you …. information is crucial and so is knowing you did all you could. So sweetie, if it's important to you, stand up for yourself and get that referral for a second opinion OR a referral to another Dr. You need all the support you can get, and if you aren't getting it then “time to cut your losses” and find a Dr who will give you that support. I know it's scary and tough, but you and your feeling are what is important.... I'll get off my soap box now. Just wanted to show you some support.

Audax – you had me ROTFL with locking yourself out of the loo! Hilarious..... I have never had much “bladder endurance” and have very little now... sometimes you just need to do what you need to do.

Murray – AWESOME news on little cod and glad you got some reassurance about the cramping..... sorry your little kitty went walkabout..... mine have just been divine..... beautiful little company cats. Although we now have a bare patch of dirt where a garden once was and me thinks it's becoming a cat toilet.... DH is happy as he is on litter duty so there are fewer deposits to clean up in the litter box, but DH hasn't worked out it will be his job to clean the dirt too! LOL. The other annoying thing is the little mites keep tracking dirt in to the house... at least its easy to see where they have and haven't been..... and it makes me laugh... think about it this way... cats are so suave and its always hard to tell where they have been, but not our boys at the moment! Its like they are leaving little post cards around the place.... OMG I think I am a crazy cat lady.....

Anyway, when is your next scan and or appointment? Oh BTW – the crazy lady comes to visit during pregnancy WAY more than TCC or the TWW..... and she's welcome here anytime. Do what you need to do to get through ok?

Ionna – thinking of you sweetie.

Possum – oh sweetie. I know only too well how hard this is for you. Even though I have experienced something similar, I have no words of advice... all you can do is take each day as it comes and hang on. I know it's a miserable time...... big hugs.....and hoping that the little tyke stays snuggly.....

MO4 - good to see you again. And look at your ticker..... ticking along nicely. How are you doing?

Elise - OMG - 31 weeks. I am so so proud of you. Hope you enjoyed your holiday .... how are you feeling?

Anyway, that's me for now. Sorry it's been such a long post. Thinking of you all my gorgeous ladies.