Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss June 2010

[Tegam]

AFM, everythings going well - I have a distinct little bump now! DH, bless his heart, was patting it and then proudly said ''I did that, with my penis.'' Well done dear, well done!

What a clever husband you have The penis really does stay a wonder to them for all their lives doesnt it?

[ashie]

kitfaerie- ROFLMAO! oh you've cheered me up! i told dh and he said well our package is less complicated then yours, then i thought hmm the tricks they can do

afm- ooh bad m/s all day! even took a ms tablet to help me keep my lunch down nope, been struggling all arvo! tried to have a nap DS2 went to sleep but DS1 he never naps! im so exhausted after the poopie sleep i had last night and now the m/s! but still happy thou, this little one is doing so well, only 2 more sleeps then ill be able to see him/her on screen!

[Hoping]

Kit - i had that stretchy cramping pain too around 11-12 weeks with my first pregnancy. My doctor said it was just all the ligaments stretching and was quite common and nothing to worry about. I mainly got it if i sneezed, coughed or moved too quickly. It only lasted about a week.

I'm and trying to count down the days until my next scan - only 7 days to go. I am really opening they can see a little heart beat this time.

Thinking of you all.

[eliselouise]

Kit i had those stretching pains too early on in my pregnancy, probably was around about the stage your at now. Of course i freaked out and thought the worst but my dr reassured me that it was very normal and it was just bubs growing and stretching my tummy. at your DH's comment, it sounds similar to something my DP would say, they think they are so clever :LOL:
Hoping not long to go, hopefully the next 7 days will fly by and you get to see a nice strong heartbeat.
Ashie YUK to the ms, hopefully it doesnt hang around for too long for you. Good luck with your scan in a couple of days
Hello to everyone else i have missed.
Sorry i dont get in all that often to post, im lurking every day and following whats going on but generally just dont have the time or the energy to post. Hopefully ill be able to a bit more when my maternity leave starts in 2 1/2 weeks. Counting down, cant wait

[dory]

Elise - wow - can't believe your mat leave is almost here! You will be so relieved. Looking forward to seeing you in here more often.

Kit - I had aching hips and knees from about 7/8 weeks and stretchy/crampy feelings from about the same time, but usually if I moved too quickly. I still get all of them. Like Elise and others have said, it's normal and a part of the process. It's primarily the relaxin hormone loosening up those tendons and ligaments. My Obs said it starts to have effect from 6 weeks but most people can't feel them then. In fact I had an episode that so was bad the other day, I had to pant my way through it. It didn't last long and it came on when I tried to move too quickly.

Also I am laughing at your DH - hilarious. Penis' rule the world apparently! The other thing he can be proud of is it's his sperm that decide the gender of the baby! How is it that they get the say in that? And how weird is it that there are, in really simple language, girl and boy sperm.

Good luck to those who are having scans coming up - how exciting and anxiety provoking at the same time. Hopefully the M/S passes soon for those who are suffering. it's not pleasant. Mine eased at 11 weeks, but some mild nausea has returned. But it's only mild. I have had my 1 hour glucose tolerance test and the results were slightly elevated so its off for the 2 hour fasting and special diet test for me next week. I hate waiting in the waiting room... wonder if I'll get a leave pass?

The baby cat goes in for his treatment next friday and I will be without him for 3 weeks. I am not looking forward to it and will be a mess when I drop him off. But hopefully the 3 weeks will be over before I know it and he'll be home and snuggling with me again.

All good with my scare earlier this week, not amniotic fluid! Phew. My Obs as usual was wonderfully understanding and compassionate and non judgmental and encouraged me to call if ANYTHING worried me.

Take care and belly rubs too all. Sorry for the lack of persies. Just feeling a bit quiet.

[luna moth]

Kit that is hilarious! Toooooo funny! I hope you patted him on the head and said "well done"

My scan is on Tuesday. I was meant to have a hospy appt today, but stuffed up the date and got the afternoon off work yesterday so I tookt eh arvo anyway and pushed the appt back by two weeks. I'm really nervous about the scan, although it's eased off a bit today because I've had lots of movement.

I've got 3 weeks and one day left of full time work, then cut back to casual work as I fancy (I don't think I'll fancy much ) Full time is definitely a struggle right now!

[KitFaerie]

Audax: Are you finding out the gender of your lil Thinker? (still in utero and imitating great art, smart baby!) Scans are always a bit scary, just focus on how excited you'll be once you see your baby. Oof I can't imagine working full time, dragging myself to the computer desk to study is a massive feat for me at the moment!

Dory: I'm glad the stretching is normal, I slept funny last night, DH is on hols at the moment so we dragged the mattress into the living room and had a camp out, but sleeping on the mattress alone was a bit hard! I remember twisting during the night and woke up with the pain. But haven't had any more since then, spoke to my Ma and she said she always got those pains quite early on, and that it was the worst with me (she was quite vocal about that part actually!) It would be really nice if you could get a leave pass for your test so you could spend it reading in a cafe or something like that!

Eliselouise: I hope the time til maternity leave just flies by!

Hi to everyone else, hope your all going well xoxo

[timeforafamily]

Angelfish – Hope you are feeling reassured that m/s subsiding during this time is very common. Hope you feeling OK about your symptoms or lack of symptoms.

Kit – ROFL. Thanks for sharing DH comment. Way, so early for me, but I’m interested in having a doula as well, especially for the labour. And congrats. on getting some appetite back.

Ashie – hope you have caught up on some sleep and feeling a bit better

Hoping – Hope your stretchy pains aren’t annoying you too much. I had sharp and short lower abdo. pains overnight, so I'm guessing that they were stretchy moments. Woke me up a few times.

Eliselouise – Hold in there. Not long to go now for mat. leave.

Dory – hope your glucose levels stay settled. What treatment is your cat getting? Can you go visit him during the 3 weeks?

Audax – good luck with your scan for Tuesday

AFM - Well I didn’t go in to get my HCG done. My mood lifted and I wanted a sleep in instead. Priorities!! We have our first U/S on Monday, so will find out if we have one or two little ones. This time I have given my DH plenty of reminders to tell his work that he needs Monday morning off. Each other time, I’ve reminded him about scans and appointments the day before, and he needed it !!!

Well I heard Danni Minogue had her boy and it just reminds me of my little one I lost in Jan, coz. I know I was due not long after her. Definitely on a new path now.

for all

[dory]

Sammy P – how are you going at waiting for your next scan? Sweetie, don't be afraid to seek any sort of reassurance you need from your ob, be it a scan ( if the ob has an u/s machine in his rooms) or listening to the heartbeat. I think the hb can be seen on u/s from about 5/6 weeks and heard sometime after that. I can't remember exactly. This journey is about you and your Ob should be attentive to your needs. You seem happy enough with the first appointment, but its a long journey and it can be tough and every little bit of reassurance helps. Well, I find it does.

Ric – good to see you in here. How are you doing now? 13 weeks.... well done. Did you have a scan about 12 weeks? When is your next appointment?

Audax - is your scan the morphology scan? Good luck on Tuesday. Are you nervous? I am curious like Kit, are you finding out gender? 19 weeks is awesome.

Kit - hope those stretchy pains aren't not too bad....

Time for a family - He's having radioactive iodine treatment..... hopefully a once off injection of radioactive iodine and then just have to wait for his "radiation levels" to subside. I won't be able to visit at all for 3 weeks because of the risk of radiation to baby. DH can visit after 1 week for no more than 30 mins a day. He'll be on visitation duty! Sorry abot your stretchy pains - how rude waking you up. Love the ticker by the way.

It is sad and poignant when there are outside reminders, and sometimes even left field, of our angels and our new journey.

Teagm - how are you doing?

Hoping - thinking of you. What's going on?

Ashie - is your scan today? Hope you're not feeling too sick with your m/s. It is the pits to be sure. Take heart, for most people it does subside and at the mo, it's a good sign of a pregnancy which is progressing. After all we have to tell ourselves something positive to get through it.

Twin sis – wow 38 weeks along.... you must be “so over” the physical discomforts and ready to meet bubs. Did you end up finding out gender? We're not finding out – going to be a sweet mystery until the big day. It's surprising how much pressure there is from some family members for us to find out, so they can “buy the right colour”. So that means you're due late July or early August? Oh, I am sooo excited for you. How is Cameron coping with your pregnancy and expanded belly? That SPD sounds awful, I presume post delivery it goes away as the relaxin levels change?

Angelfish – how are you doing? You're not alone ….. you have lots of support here on BB, although I know that it's not the same as having someone physically beside you. I admire your strength and determination. Hold on to that my dear.

Milly 5- wow girl – look at you 31 weeks. How awesome is that? How are you going physically and emotionally? So you'd be due early Sept?

HPL – can you believe it 29 weeks? I am overjoyed, and thankful for every day. I love the feeling of baby moving around and just how strong the movements are. It's very reassuring. Are you having insomnia? I get it off and on. Sometimes I get pins and needles in my arms and hands, but they go away if I change positions. Do you get that? Must remember to ask my Obs about it next week. Have you set up the nursery yet? We are yet to, although we might actually go and purchase a cot this weekend. Its a pretty big step for us.... as happy as we are we are still nervous nellies.

Elise - how are you doing today?

Possum and Milly d – thinking of you both, just in case you're lurking! Hugs. Hope today is one of the better days.

Sorry if I have missed anyone else. Not much to report here. Same old, same old. 7 more sleeps til my fur baby goes in for his treatment.... eeek. I'll either go to ground and not post because I am too sad, or I will post like mad to try and fill the hole his absence leaves. DH was at work til near midnight last night ( he's a day time worker, not a shift worker) and I impressed myself by staying awake til he got home. Then I was so excited to have him home I couldn't sleep. Hilarious. I was considerate though, I tried NOT to talk incessantly, as all he wanted and needed was some down time before he crashed into bed.

[ashie]

dory- scan is today! 2.35 perth time, will let you all know how it goes. so excited, but m/s is making hard to drink alot of fluids for scan, specially water i cant stomach water lmao! so im drinking juice and lemonade lol. ill take a m/s tablet soon so hopefully fliuds will stay put for the scan lol. feeling real confident that all is well with bubs, still nervous but more excited.

i went out and bought two sleep rompers from kmart i couldnt help myself! one for a little boy and one for a little girl, people say that mothers know what their having or have an idea but im totally not sure! different pregnancy so far to the boys, my boys all had lower hcg levels early one, this one has much higher ones, bugger all m/s with boys and loads with this one and my boys heart rate scans at 6 weeks were in the 120's bpm so we will see what this one shows us today. still to early to know of course but i love the guessing!

[dory]

Ashie - oh how exciting. That's about 4.35 East coat time, but you'll need time to get home etc. I am glad you bought something.... it's nice to get your baby something. All of my preg have been very different. I am with you, I have no idea, and to be honest, don't really care. Hope you can hold it in both ends! I am so thankful that the scanning place I go to now doesn't require a full bladder - makes it so much easier and more pleasant.

[Tegam]

It is sad and poignant when there are outside reminders, and sometimes even left field, of our angels and our new journey.

Teagm - how are you doing?
HPL – can you believe it 29 weeks? I am overjoyed, and thankful for every day. I love the feeling of baby moving around and just how strong the movements are. It's very reassuring. Are you having insomnia? I get it off and on. Sometimes I get pins and needles in my arms and hands, but they go away if I change positions. Do you get that? Must remember to ask my Obs about it next week. Have you set up the nursery yet? We are yet to, although we might actually go and purchase a cot this weekend. Its a pretty big step for us.... as happy as we are we are still nervous nellies.

Sorry if I have missed anyone else. Not much to report here. Same old, same old. 7 more sleeps til my fur baby goes in for his treatment.... eeek. I'll either go to ground and not post because I am too sad, or I will post like mad to try and fill the hole his absence leaves. DH was at work til near midnight last night ( he's a day time worker, not a shift worker) and I impressed myself by staying awake til he got home. Then I was so excited to have him home I couldn't sleep. Hilarious. I was considerate though, I tried NOT to talk incessantly, as all he wanted and needed was some down time before he crashed into bed.

Im good. Just nothing iteresting to say really! LOL Had my first braxton hick the other morning, weird to see the uterus all bent out of shape so early on! Meant to see my HB MW at 14 week so i guess id better contact her soon, i am in no great hurry. there is nothing they can do for me and i guess im scared that ill get stressed that she wont be able to hear the HB yet with a doppler... Im happier not knowing!

I agree that the unexpected reminders of our angles are harder than the dates... Have had to light my candle a bit more lately than normal but that make me feel comfort. Really didnt have time to process ectopic before the BFP. We also moved house right as i got out of hospital so its been a bumper of a year. I still know this was better for me than to wait to TTC. How long did you take between your babies?

Hope your fur baby is ok. I also hope that you post like mad and dont go underground 3 weeks is just too long!

Your poor DH i do the same to mine. All they need is some quiet time and then wham the excited women mouths off at 100 miles an hour!

I hope you go and get the cot. Yes it will be very emotional for you but at some point you have to face these emotions!

dory- scan is today! 2.35 perth time, will let you all know how it goes. so excited, but m/s is making hard to drink alot of fluids for scan, specially water i cant stomach water lmao! so im drinking juice and lemonade lol. ill take a m/s tablet soon so hopefully fliuds will stay put for the scan lol. feeling real confident that all is well with bubs, still nervous but more excited.

i went out and bought two sleep rompers from kmart i couldnt help myself! one for a little boy and one for a little girl, people say that mothers know what their having or have an idea but im totally not sure! different pregnancy so far to the boys, my boys all had lower hcg levels early one, this one has much higher ones, bugger all m/s with boys and loads with this one and my boys heart rate scans at 6 weeks were in the 120's bpm so we will see what this one shows us today. still to early to know of course but i love the guessing!

Good luck with the scan! I have never guessed what i am having. When people ask i always respond that i have NO maternal vibes at all! I also always buy something blue and something pink. It always suprises me how important it is for me too see them in the right colour! LOL go with the feeling. If you want to buy then buy!

[ashie]

scan went perfectly im acutally 6 weeks not 6 weeks and 4 days lol, but their keeping my dates yay! little one measures 5.2mm and heart rate of 114bpm, scanner guy said he's 100% happy with little one and bub is viable! was so good knowing he or she is ok, im so starting to think little is a she thou! my boys were huge for this age lmao!

[Tegam]

woohoo little girl would be nice. Will you find out?

[Hope.Positive.Love]

ashie : Congrats on the great news!! dates to me mean nothing of late... I'm any where between 29weeks and 31weeks - then the MW today told me I was 26weeks.. yeah right I think, got a second opinion and she measured me 30wks!!

Tegam: I loved the looked of my belly with the BHC i thought it was so cool lol

dory: oh my love I know 29wks we made it :-) - I am getting insomnia thank god you are too. It's driving me nuts, I had maybe 4hrs sleep last night and I'm still working 5days so it's not fun!! I've been getting cramps in my right calf but can't take anything else for it so I get up in the middle night walk around for 30mins then try and get back to sleep... Our nursery is almost finished.. DH and I made a decision at 15 weeks to start enjoying the pregnancy and we have been slowly doing it since then... We had a lot of stuff from our first pregnancy so when my parents bought everything over to our house it was very emotional coz this was all meant for our first bubby so there were tears but also tear of joy that we were having this one no matter what... I will have to work out how to put a link on and show you some pictures of the nursery, i am very proud of it... We have a craddle from my DH side that is over 80years brought over from Amsterdam which is my DH father's ( so bubba Opa) It is goregous and still is really really good condition... so we'll use that in our room and the cot in the nursery... I think it would be really good for you and DH to go and buy one or at least have a look at them this weekend, it is a big step I understand buying it means you will have someone to put in there... and Dory.... you will, you will have a precious little baby and you will be an amazing mother!!!


All emotional today ladies sorry!! Bug belly rubs to everyone!! Enjoy the weekend!!

[ashie]

thanks girls im so happy bub is doing well, its a weight lifted off my shoulders!
tegam- i will find out, i cant stand not knowing lol, i want to be out buying pink or blue lol, i cant keep bub a suprise i tried once but failed lol.
hope.positive.love- i had that with my boys, had DS 2 12 days early and he was 8lb 12 and a half oz! so ready to come out he was. ds 1 he was 7lb 14 oz two days early he was bang on lol. i think if its a girl she may be little like me im only teeny so it would be a nice change lol.

[angelfish]

ashiei am so happy for your great scan. A mother sometimes does know what the sex of the baby can be i was right with the one i m/c i always knew it was a boy and it was.

dory I am doing okay b/f kids are here for a week and the older one by a year is better behaved then the younger one is. so its kinda of stressful makes me wonder what it will be if i am still be with him when i have the baby.

AFM went to the drs and they wanted me on bed rest becosue my heart is giving me problems. And my b/f said its not an opioion i cant rest i have to take care of his kids. He knew about this for a while if he could not take the time off then he should have said i cant take the kids for a week. He is on call 24/7 so they want to see him not me. We had a problem yesterday the 8 going 9 year old took off at a very crowed pool took him 15 mins to find her and all he did was tell her not to walk with out tell someone when she has been told so many times. I told him that she should have to sit down for a few becouse you cant reward bad behavoir

[ashie]

angelfish- thats so unfair on you, i hope you do rest up hun you deserve it xxx

well im sad i had a friend tell me my scan isnt normal made me cry, dh just thinks its a girl cause this one teeny not like the boys the boys were 7-8mm lol. dh said scan person said bubs is fine so she is lol, oh i wonder if little one is a she would explain alot lol. i am just so happy to have a good growing bub why do people want to make me worry again, also all my family is being great support their being like dh and saying girl too! anyway i picked out a boy and girl name i am still on the fence lol