Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ April 2011

Stoked - How exciting, a little boy!

Alish - Good luck with the mat. pants, and great news your heart murmur isn't serious :) The only other hospital able to treat clubfoot patients is Brisbane. The others on the coast are all private, or there's a public one in Tweed but they don't deal with clubfoot. :( I have no choice right now but to go back to the 'scene of the crime'.

WBM - I know, it's craziness.... I might speak to my GP, thanks for the suggestion. I hadn't thought of that. He was horrified when I told him the story and didn't judge me for having a sook in his office. The midwives are meant to come to my house to do the hearing test but their schedule constantly conflicts with mine, and she keeps calling me on Wednesdays to organize it at the last minute, when I have appointments that day every week and I've told her this. She also only ever can come out in the afternoon, which is why I keep trying to just go up to see her after my appointment with Axel while I'm at the hospital. But no, that would be too organized for them.

Damprye - Hope you're feeling better soon :)

Ferrals - OMG, I think Axel might be the same as Ella... that's it, I'm taking him to the GP asap. Thanks for the list, it really helped! I hope Ella improves really quickly.

Cheshire - I already spoke to a social worker at the hospital. Nothing really came of that. She gave me contacts for a counsellor, but I'm not looking for that. I'm ok. However, they need to be accountable for their dodgy policies. Or lack thereof.

Dory - I'll take my complaint as high as I can. We even thought about contacting the newspaper, but haven't as if it's going to get all legal we don't want to do anything to jepoardize that. Good work on the taties too.. I love roast taties. and it really is a fine art!

Cheezelmonster - I hope your m/s goes away soon... it's such a gross feeling. Good luck for your scan, I have everything crossed for you.

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just a clod/flu here, my pee is fine :p

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:rofl:And here i only popped online to see how your pee was Damprye :rofl:

Tho can you tell me how painful a clod is? Never had one of those :lol:

Hello-- Friends-- I am sorry that I haven't been in communication for a long while...This is to let you know that my son, Obed ("Obie"), died on April 5th. He was a little over 2 months old. I just wanted to publicly say thank you to the group and to explain why I haven't been on-line for some time. Obed was born with a neurological brain stem disorder-- he was a beautiful baby boy, but he couldn't swallow his own saliva and he had decreased body movement. I have been reluctant to post because of the sad news and I apologize, but I don't know who has delivered their babies and who has not. I just wanted to say hello and thank you to those who have privately inquired-- and sent along prayers. I need them.

PS I haven't figured out how exactly to remove the ticker-- and I don't have the energy to do so-- I want to hold on to being a "mom" a little bit longer.

Sunshine and stars: So sad for you that you have lost your precious Obie. You will always be his mum. So sad he could not stay with you. Sending you prayers. I can only imagine how tough you are doing it at the moment. Please feel ok to post if you want support.

Sunshine - :hug: :crying: Fly free, little Obie.

S&S I too am so sorry to hear your sad news about little Obed's passing. You will always be his mom. I can't imagine what you must be going through :crying: :grouphug:

S&S i'm so sorry to hear of your news :hug:

So sorry to hear the news about Obie - youll always be his mum. sorry he couldnt stay xoxoxoo

Oh Sunshine and Stars.. I'm so so sorry you have lost your precious baby boy. You'll ALWAYS be Obie's mummy. May Obie live in your heart forever xx

oh my god s&s im so sorry xoxox

S&S- Being a Mother is about bringing such a beautiful life into existence and loving our little ones as much as we do. How long they are able to stay in our arms has no impact on whether or not we are Mothers. You are forever a Mummy in my eyes :hug: RIP little Obie :angel:

S&S - I am very sorry to hear about your precious angel

Hi ladies,
I haven't posted in here before only my belly buddies group but as this pregnancy goes on I think I need to be "near" people who understand my fears a little better which I sound awful saying I love my belly buddies dearly but hopefully you get what i mean!
A little b/g for those who don't know me. My DS was born at 25 weeks and lived for 3 hours before making his trip to heaven. Since meeting DH we have had quite a few losses whilst TTC most early (within the first 12 weeks) one at 17 weeks due to a heart problem this was also a little boy who isn't officially named due to gestation he was still classed as a miscarriage. DH never speaks of it infact since the day hes not once mentioned it and somedays I wish he would.
Anyway now that I'm pregnant with twins and they are both boys I freak out a lot given my experiences with boys ends in death. But thats about it for me, I know I'm a bit slow off the mark introducing myself here when I'm right at the end but its the end that scares me

mrs s welcome to this group! all the ladies in here are fantastic!
sorry for your losses and (youve prob heard this before) everything will be fine!
look forward to getting to know you! x

Sunshine~ i am so sorry.

Ferrals~ i found out resently that Honor has reflux i hope the meds work. Sometimes it might take a little bit for it to work so i dont know if the dr told you but dont let her sleep flat, burp her more, also my dr told me to put some rice ceral in her bottle just some hints. Reflux sucks

Oh sunshine and stars i am so sorry hun words can not even come close to how sad i am for your family and your loss my thoughts are with you.

Cheezelmonster-you can get good scans after having a bad outcome with a pregnancy.
With my Abbi every scan from the 12 week one was bad it went from a bad nuchal scan fluid at the back of her neck was 4.8mm then a scan at 16 weeks showed skeletal dysplasia then 17 weeks showed major heart , hand and foot abnormalities then at 18 weeks it got worse with other organs looking abnormal we got to 19 weeks before someone could give us an idea of what the hell was going on and we were told the inevitable she was not viable with life.
So you can imagine my pregnancy with ella was just traumatic and absolutely stressful every upcoming scan i was sick with worry because i knew what to look for and i dreaded looking at the screen but every scan got more reasuring and finally after a failed CVS (the doctor dropped the sample before they could test it) and an amnio at 16 weeks we had our morphology scan and i could finally believe everything just might be ok and look at me now i have a sweet 6 week old snuggled up in her bed.
So do believe it can and does happen life goes on even after a tragic loss.

Damprye-glad your little man is ok.

MrsS-welcome there are a few of us who have had late losses in here and everyone has experienced the heartache of m/c so we well and truely understand i look forward to seeing your BA.
Giving your son (born at 17 weeks) a name just might help to talk about him and deal with his loss and maybe coming to terms with what happened we had to end a pregnancy at 19 weeks 5 days due to SLO (non viable with life) it was the hardest thing i have ever had to do we gave her a name Abbi christine jean she is our 1st daughter and i include her in our lives we had a teddy made for her and a xmass globe for the xmass tree and a candle for her Bday which the other kids light it has helped imensely (spelling) and i we were able to come to terms with the whole ordeal so i hope my telling you this gives you something to think about and maybe help with what you are feeling everyone deals with loss differently that was just my way.

Forshelby-Ella has been fantastic last night and today she is settling so easy and no more painful noises while she is sleeping and drinking her bottles has been bliss no arching her back and neck and not one scream so touch wood the Zantac is the reason and now my girl can be more relaxed and happy oh and putting her to bed she is settling herself and falling asleep without me having to go to her repeatedly to sooth her and put the dummy in every sleep so far we have just put her down and popped the dummy in once or twice and she is out like a light.

Angelfish-already on it Ella has a pillow under her sheet to keep her upright and we burp with a vengence she is also on lactose free formula which is thicker anyway so she doesnt bring up much at all.

ss.........im so sorry about ur little boy....words cant express how sorry i am for ur loss. Hope ur getting through ol. Thinking of u

mrs s.....welcome and im sorry for ur losses. Hope u will get some great support in here

forshelby....wow u are going through so much at the moment..thinking of u

alish...how u going...

Hello everyone.....ive gotta run but will be back later

had my 28 weeks scan...everythings looking ok.....

S&S - I had been thinking about you and Obie and hoping for news, but praying it wouldn't be this news. You will always be Obie's Mom and you will always feel like a Mom because you had a child you loved so dearly. I can't think of anything that would help to ease your suffering but please know that Obie's life touched other people who never even had a chance to meet him and he will never be forgotten.

Melster- Glad your scan went well :)

Ferrals- So happy for your family that the Zantac has worked so quickly on little Ella :)

MrsS- Sometimes men find it much harder to talk about things that make them feel like crying as many were brought up with "men don't cry" so maybe when he is having a bit of a vulnerable day, you could up your lost babies. Even men sometimes need a good cry and it sounds like it could do you both some good.

Forshelby- Thanks :)

Tegam- Glad I could give you a good laugh :D

S&S- I think a group hug is called for :grouphug: we will always be here to support each other in good times and in bad. Please never again feel you have to hide yourself away because of how someone will react to what has happened. Again :grouphug:

Hi girls, just wanted to quickly let you know that my scan went well today. One healthy little bubba with an EDD of December 12th.

Am currently waiting to see a GP about my m/s. Can't even keep water down today.

S&S - I'm so sorry to hear of your loss :hug:

thanks for the welcome :)

CM great news about your scan i bet thats a weight off your shoulders

CM fantastic news about your scan & hope the m/s eases for you.

Welcome Mrs S :)

melster, ive been wondering where youve been, im going well.. how are you? how is your dad going?

cheezel - congrats on a great scan :) how did ur gp appt go?

hello to all the other lovely ladies :D

S&S I can't imagine your pain :hug: You will always be your beautiful Obed's Mummy. He will always be watching over you and thankful for the love he is given, while he was earthside and forever.

Mrs S - this is a great group! As someone (I have a shocking memory) said, there are gorgeous gals in here who have been through similar things - I can't even imagine being pregnant with twins! That has its own stress elements - go you amazing woman!

Cheezel - I am so happy about your positive scan, every scan for me has put more hope in my heart - can't wait for the next one!

Cheezel- Yays I got your EDD right :D I just went back to update it but it is already down as the 12th hehe. Congrats on the good scan. When my m/s was at it's peak, I had to take maxi(something-or-other) it is the same stuff you take when you want to increase your breastmilk lol. Gotta love multiuse drugs :D It didn't work all the time but there was improvement :)

I dont know how i got here again but i just got a BFP i took a at home test and the line is very light...... I am happy but my bf said if i truely am that i should get rid of the baby not in a million years i will get rid of him frist

Wow Angelfish! Congratulations! That is very exciting news!

Oh Angelfish, congrats hun :D I was the same, once it was confirmed and scan went well, DP (now XDP) went nuts and threatened to get rid of nun so I got rid of him :) Hope yours comes around but yays :D

Hello, everyone--
Thank you your condolences and prayers. While Obed was still living, a professional volunteer photographer took photos of Obie-- they are on a special website run by the organization "Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep." If anyone is interested in seeing the photos, I would be happy to share the link and password. Just send me a private message and I will send the link. Also, if you are interested in seeing what I shared as far as my remarks at our son's memorial, then let me know. I can send them too.

It is our hope that some greater good can come from our son's living and dying.

Thank you again for your postings. I will follow along, as I am able. And please know that I send my best wishes to all of you.

Sunshine

Thankyou everyone its was just a faint line but still.Honor is only three months and i have had 8 misscarriage all together so i am nervouse

S@S~ we all care about you i am sending you hugs

Angelfish - after so many angels I can only imagine your reaction to being told to create another angel! :crossfingers: for you, if that line continues to get darker, bubs was obviously meant to be! Two of my friends have a 12 and 13 month gap between their gorgeous children, they're loving it!

sunshine - i would love to see pictures of obie! i will send u a pm xoxo

angelfish - omg congratulations! bit it was a bit of a surprise eh? tell your dp to pull his head in! maybe he is just in shock, lets hope he comes around!

my dads birthday today, im making him a mississippi mud cake mmmm... yum! have a lovely weekend ladies! x

Angelfish-After 8 m/c this bub is ment to be so congradulations Honnor will be just over 1 year old when the new bub arrives so you will have your hands full but what better to have your hands full with than 2 gorgeous bubs.

S&S- I PM you.

CM-well done on the great scan.

Alish-Yummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! your dad is a lucky man.

AFM-My Ella is back a happy content painfree bubby thank god i took her to the doctors with my suspistions of reflux the zantac is wonderful.

Hi Girls!! I am baaaaaaack!!! :)

First of all, S&S i am so sorry for ur loss. I have been trying to find the time to pm u back but its been a crazy few days for me. My heart just breaks for u. Sending u lots and lots of strength xxx

OMG I have had the bestest week of my life!!! :)

My labour experience was absolutely amazing! It hurt like bloody hell but i got thru it.. somehow!
Just a quick version, last thursday dh got home from being away, HE decided it was time to have this baby so we thought we wld try a natural induction method... lots of sex! We dtd twice friday arvo/night, during the night i started getting regular tightenings but managed to sleep quite contently, i was just aware they were coming every 15 or so mins. Woke up the next morning, dtd again, baked some scones and went to my mums for the day. Was getting regular tightenings, about every 6 mins apart, but was fully in denial that i was actually in labour! I really thought this was just all part of the prelabour things that i had been hearing about and that it wld last atleast the next couple weeks. By 5pm that arvo, the contractions had started stopping me in my tracks but i still honestly thought they wld just die off. By 9pm i was in pain. The contractions were coming every few mins but i cldnt be bothered timing them so wasnt sure if they were really classed as regular. I called the hospital letting them know i was having pains but that it was probably nothing... i was so certain that my pain threshold was really low compared to someone elses! They said to try and stick it out at home if i really didnt think i was in labour and to start timing them. I then called my whole family looking for some panadeine forte.. i was hoping to knock myself out for the night and see what was happening in the morning. No-one in my family had any panadeine forte so i had a couple back and neck panadols that dh had. They didnt seem to do anything but i put it down to the fact that they were just the wrong sort.. not that i was actually getting very painful contractions!!!
Come 11pm i was a shivering shaking crippled over mess. I called the hospital again and asked them if i cld come in for monitoring, i apologised a billion times that i cld be wasting their time but i really just needed to know what was going on.
To cut a long story short, i went to the hospital at 12am, found out i was getting contractions every 1.5 mins and that i was 4cm dilated! The midwife said that it wld probably take 6-8 hrs to become fully dilated. For the next 3 hrs all i was thinking about was getting an epidural. The fantastic midwife seemed to keep prolonging it tho. I somehow got to 3am without taking anything.. not even gas, i tried for 5 secs but threw it away cos it did NOTHING!! By the time i got my next internal i was begging for an epidural, i really dont think i cld have taken much more!! I got the hugest surprise tho when the midwife said 'ur about to have ur baby!' I didnt believe her! I dont think she believed it herself! 15 mins later our beautiful little girl was born!! :)

I am going to write a proper birth story one of these days so i will add a lot more details but i just wanted to fill u in on all the basic details now! :)

The craziest thing is.. i feel so upset and ripped off that she came early. All i ever wanted during the pregnancy was to have her a couple weeks early just so i cld have her here safely but it was only the day before she was born i was telling everyone that i wasnt ready to not be pregnant anymore.. i honestly thought i still had 2-3 weeks left of being pg. I was loving it all way too much! I was still waiting to get the waddle, get a weird craving, for my tummy to fully pop out, to get swollen fingers and feet, to yell out 'oh my god get this baby out of me!!!' But it all never came. I am so sad that i never got to say goodbye to my tummy :( I have got the most beautiful little girl ever and i LOVE the fact that she is here safely but i also want to be pregnant with her still. I have even shed a few tears over it. Yep im weird!!

Anyway i better go, things are a bit crazy here.. but u know what?! it has nothing to do with the fact that we have a new baby its cos dhs family are all here..thats 6 adults and 7 kids! Our little girl has been perfect. I have been managing on 3-4 hrs sleep each night but feel great!! I cant even sleep during the day cos im on such a high still! She is feeding and sleeping really really well. I cldnt have gotten thru the last week so easily without my dh tho. He is waking up for every feed and nappy change. And get this! Until yesterday i hadnt even changed a nappy! Dh had done every single one. When i did finally do my first one yesterday an hour later i was covered in wee cos i didnt pull it far enough over on her!! haha. I definitely need some practise!

Anyway really better go! I hope its not too long til im back on here! Next week will be a whole lot less crazy once everyone has gone.

Oh one last thing.. our beautiful little girls name is Sienna Rose... :) Oh and i cant believe she is a she! We so thought it was going to be a boy! We only just painted the room boys colours! haha lucky we have prettied it up so its quite girlish now :)

xxx

ps. send me a pm if u want my fb link so u can see pics! :)

ferrals - great news! very happy to hear that!

reet - yay youre back! ive missed you! i love her name and im so glad youre having a wonderful time :)

Reet- Congrats on your little Sienna :D

I'll be updating the list every couple of pages so that we don't get too lost lol. So please make sure your deatails are correct cos I have a habbit of making bobos :rofl:

:bellygrowing:Pregnancies:bellyrubs:

~*MrsS*~- EDD 23rd May- Twin Boys :D
T-Hopes- EDD 14th June- Surprise
Melster- EDD 19th July- Girl
~Stoked~- EDD 5th August- Boy
Possum magic- EDD 27th August- Surprise
Damprye- EDD 31st August- Surprise
Alish- EDD 9th September- Girl
India's Mum- EDD 6th October- Surprise
Cheshire- EDD 6th October- Surprise
WannabeMum- EDD 21st November- Girl/Boy
CheezelMonster- EDD 12th December- Girl/Boy?Surprise
Pash- EDD 22nd December- Girl/Boy/Surprise
Kokonut- EDD 2nd January- Girl/Boy/Surprise

:cheer:Recent Arrivals:bluecheer:

Ferrals5- 18th March- Girl- Ella
Forshelby- 25th March- Boy- Axel
Mildez- 30th March- Girl- Josie
JennaJayen- 30th March- Girl- Elise
Iona- 30th March- Boy- Jack
Reet- 24th April- Girl- Sienna
Kellbell- 20th April- Boy- Jayden

Sorry, I know I forgotten heaps but please let me know details and I'll quickly add them... especially gender lol :)

OMG I AM LOVING THAT LIST!!!!! So stupidly happy to see all those names up there :) and LOVING THE NAMES!!! Basically, whole lotta love going on right here. LOVE LOVE LOVE!!!

I'm pretty bad at staying up to date on BB, so if you wanna stay in contact message me and I'll add you on FB. As long as you can cope with updates about practically everything DS does and how I want but am crap at making various food.

Is it strange that sometimes I miss our MC/L group?

Reet-welcome back love the name sienna was 3rd on my girl list.

Hi Kit nice to hear from you.

So t-hopes must be having a girl if you look, it goes girl boy girl boy and so on!!!