Clairesmummy - hugs... big big hugs for you and your broken heart. I've been there too, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.... I hope that you get to say goodbye to bubs without any intervention..... I will light a little candle for your bubba and for your hopes and dreams. Like Ferrals said - don't give up on the dream, but right now? Take your time to grieve. Sending you lots of love.... and still hoping it's all a bad dream...

India's mum - ahhh, being in bed is not such a bad thing -a nice way to slow down - just pity about all the pukies, or pukey feelings. Hope the m/s eases just enough to keep you reassurred but enough to make you feel comfortable. M/s really can be a bit miserable.

Alish - GL for friday.. I know you're scared... I wish I could make it better for you.... you'll just have to accept a hug.

Damprye - have you gotten some good comments on FB about your announcement?

Reet - congrats on 31 wks. Your fears are so so so absolutely normal. I had ones similar, and ones similar to Ferrals and even some others too. For most of us our fears are unfounded and when you look back they will just seem so silly.. but right now they are not silly and they feel all very real and overwhelming.... acknowledge them, but at the same time, try not to get too worried about something you can't control and focus on sending your bub as much love as possible. Don't worry about the cleaning products you've used. You'll be fine and your little one too. OK? Just take moment to take a deep breath in, put your hands on your tum and just believe. Believe. But I felt how you feel and only by seeing could I believe all was ok, and even then it took a while to sink in. PML with the thought of you POAS all the time just hoping for the result you wanted.... I only had one test otherwise I would have been doing the same.... was thinking about doing the internet bulk buy... but then decided not to give in.

Kell - how many shifts are you working this week? Hope you're coping in this diabolical heat.

TegamM - well not really trying officially - no cycle yet, though as I keep saying there could be a sneaky O in there and a little miracle just waiting for the hcg to get strong enough.... HA - the things we tell ourselves! I have put on a bit less than 20kgs since my first m/c in 2008. In the past excess weight really interferred with my cycle, but the 10kgs I put on between 2008 and Hannah's conception didn't affect things... So I honestly think that some of this weight has to go in order for there to be any real ttc. It was more DH got some birthday present he didn't expect. But I suppose what it does mean is that we are open to the idea. Sadly, I also worry that because of my history, the journey to get an earthside sibling for Hannah will take a while, so might as well start soon plus there is the race to 40... and whilst I feel young those eggies are not. Someone said Hannah must be good? I think she is ... although the newborn weeks were brutal. Are they as brutal for subsequent bubs? I suppose there is the luxury for a first bub of not having others to care for, so your time is more your own, but balanced against that is the total lack of knowledge and confidence in parenting skills and strategies and just being so new at it all. So, what's it been like for you,parenting a newborn after the first? if you don't mind me asking...