Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ July 2010

[KitFaerie]

Ferrals: Go the preg porn! I'm so glad everythings going well, very excitied to see if you've got one or two lil bubs growing away in there!

Murraycod: I've put on almost 7kg too, a lot of it is boobage and DH kindly tells me my butt isn't bigger, but then he says if it was he wouldent care, which makes me think he's being diplomatic! I figure it's not important how much I gain, just that Tiger's healthy and earthside.

Dory: EEeee! for getting your furbaby back, you'll get soooo many sniffy kisses and purrs!

Ric: Sorry your not feeling well babe, I hope it calms down soon! I felt some swishy butterfly feelings last week and this week starting to get a few solid thuds. I'm still not totally convinced it's Tiger, but I figure in another week I'll know for sure. My mum said she didn't feel anything til 20 weeks.

Iona: Rock out! Awesome news honey, enjoy it!

AFM, had my first midwife hospy appt yesterday, DH and I were scheming how to get a quick scan done if there was a machine in the room, but alas, no machine! But we did hear Tiger's heartbeat with the doppler, so so incredibly wonderful, DH was grinning his ass off, and then made up a song about being a Daddy and how I don't get to be one cos I'm gonna be the Mummy. He's an idiot but I adore him. AND I'm measuring 18 weeks instead of 17! I'm blaming DH and his height for that. Can't wait to find out if Tiger's a prince or a princess, we usually say ''he'' cos the 11 week tech said his guess was boy, but I'm not sure how accurate an 11 week guess is! Struggling to give uni proper attention, but functional assessment got nothing on baby clothes on ebay! Although we haven't actually bought anything yet (apart from being given 3 tiger toys and a sling!). It still feels early to me!

Oh! Mini vent! At the 5 weekish scan, the tech was all like ''we may not see much cos the baby's very small'', at the 7 week scan the teach was all like ''the baby is still very small'', at the 11 week scan the tech said ''remember the baby is still very small'' AND yesterday when searching for Tiger's heartbeat the midwife said ''The baby is still very small at this stage''! Compared the to 2mm Tiger was when we first saw him, 17 weeks is frikkin huge! And babies are meant to be small, if they were the size of cars then I doubt very much that I'd put my hand up for carrying one around for 9 months!

Mini vent done.

Belly rubs for all! xoxo

[milly5]

Hi ladies,

sorry to have been MIA, I have been lurking but not posting, just feeling a bit down at the moment, and well, needed to be a bit reclusive.

I'm feeling really tired and teary, and have a horrible cold - I feel so "overwhelmed" really.....

Our scan - well, Spud is measuring quite small for dates, so I have to have another scan next week to ensure Spud/ placenta are OK. I so hope so, I don't want to have to have induction or C/s early and the whole NCIU etc - apart from the obvious, it means the bigger hospital, several hours from home.

I am feeling really disorganised, and so not ready for Spud to arrive yet, and feeling to tired to do anything about it ... sorry for the moan.

Oh and just to let you all know, on Ferrals earlier post - I too read "blow job" LOL. You girls do make me smile, sorry for bringing the board down.

[ferrals5]

Milly5-try not to worry to much my fundal hight measured 2-3 weeks behind with all my boys i was always very small in the belly aswell i was sent for extra scans to see if the placenta was ok ect and all was good i just had small babies.

[milly5]

thanks Ferrals,
it's so hard isn't it, not worrying I mean, urgh! I just cant wait to have this baby healthy and in my arms, but at the same time, not yet, not for another 5 weeks IYKWIM!

[ferrals5]

Milly-i don't want to worry you any more than us poor pregnant women already are but it only gets worse once bub is here being a parent you worry something will go wrong with the pregnancy then worry about the birth then you will worry about the baby being normal then when you bring bub home you worry about SIDS then when you get past that you worry about whooping cough and all the childhood illnesses then they start school and you worry about their learning if they are intelligent or not and then it's stranger danger once you get through that it is high school and the worry of bullying and sex and drugs and now my 17 year old has his L's i worry about car accident's so you may awell give up now because there is nothing anyone can say or do to really put your mind at rest WELCOME TO PARENTHOOD.

[Tegam]

AFM - i dont know its m/s or what - whatever i am eating these days - i am throwing everything and feel gassy and bloated all the time..yesterday i cooked some potatao and beans and everything came out in shape..yakkkk... i am feeling very week. rest is all good. My 20 week u/s is booked on 27th aug..eagerly waiting to see bub and to know the gender as well ( thinking whether to find-out or not?). we still havent disclosed the world about the news (except family), so thats going to be hard as we are thinking to tell everyone after 20 weeks and my Dh is thinking of inviting everyone for drinks in mid sept and i will be 23 weeks by then...thats a long time...heheeeeeeeeeeeeee.
Hey all the experienced ladies - when do we feel movements of the bub??? i read in some forum - gals are saying 15 weeks, 17 weeks, 20 weeks...even the first timers said that they feel LO kicks in 16- 17 weeks??? when when when...


Take care all.
Will post more from now on...

Love and wishes,
Ric xx

Hi Ric,
Are you in a bellybuddies group? Im sure you should be with KitFaerie and I??

We havent told anyone yet. we are waiting until after the 20week scan next week. I think it makes it go nice and quick for everyone. 23weeks is getting a little hard to hide the bump id guess. But do what ever you want!!!
I felt my bubs around 16-18weeks, its hard to know what you are feeling when its the first and then hard to be confident thats what it was!

Oh! Mini vent! At the 5 weekish scan, the tech was all like ''we may not see much cos the baby's very small'', at the 7 week scan the teach was all like ''the baby is still very small'', at the 11 week scan the tech said ''remember the baby is still very small'' AND yesterday when searching for Tiger's heartbeat the midwife said ''The baby is still very small at this stage''! Compared the to 2mm Tiger was when we first saw him, 17 weeks is frikkin huge! And babies are meant to be small, if they were the size of cars then I doubt very much that I'd put my hand up for carrying one around for 9 months!

Mini vent done.

Belly rubs for all! xoxo

Totally agree with mini vent!!

Hi ladies,

sorry to have been MIA, I have been lurking but not posting, just feeling a bit down at the moment, and well, needed to be a bit reclusive.

I'm feeling really tired and teary, and have a horrible cold - I feel so "overwhelmed" really.....

Our scan - well, Spud is measuring quite small for dates, so I have to have another scan next week to ensure Spud/ placenta are OK. I so hope so, I don't want to have to have induction or C/s early and the whole NCIU etc - apart from the obvious, it means the bigger hospital, several hours from home.

I am feeling really disorganised, and so not ready for Spud to arrive yet, and feeling to tired to do anything about it ... sorry for the moan.

Oh and just to let you all know, on Ferrals earlier post - I too read "blow job" LOL. You girls do make me smile, sorry for bringing the board down.

I know everyone else has said it but mine have always not been the same weight as the scan... Either bigger or smaller. My DD2 lost 2kgs in 2weeks if you believe the scan people! Good luck hun!

you may awell give up now because there is nothing anyone can say or do to really put your mind at rest WELCOME TO PARENTHOOD.

AFM: Been working heaps and tuckshop = standing for 16hrs straight! Im completely rooted! Hard shifts too (im a nurse) Very emotional, which sort of works well as i clean when upset. So the house is spotless . Sorry no more time for personals. Know im lurking and thinking of you all!

[angelfish]

Hi everyone sorry i have not been around. I have been tired again. But no more m/s so i am happy about that. Next week i am going camping not looking forward to that. I am offically in the second trimester and i thought that some of the worry would go away and it has not gone away. I am even more worried.

[murraycod]

Angelfish IKWYM exactly X Me too X

Hi to all, I'm in lurk mode

[angelfish]

Murraycod- we are a week apart from each other. Monday i have a scan to make sure everything is okay not looking forward to that.

[AJello]

Hi ladies...

Really feel like crying... grrrrrrr, sorry, but really not quite sure what's happening! AF is 2 days overdue and I have got sore bb so decided to take a HPT and comes out negative... grrrrrr! is the sore bb just PMS? oh... I don't normally get sore bb for PMS and last time when I was pregnant b4 MC I got sore BB and they were sore for 2 weeks b4 I decided to take a HPT n got positive....

OH... my dear body.. please tell me what you are doing?

I'm using firstresponse. Is that any good?

Also, AF after MC was dot on 30 days after first day of MC and my cycle has been pretty good on 30 days a few months before the pg... oh... *sob sob* sorry for being a drama queen.

[Tegam]

Oh HUGE HUGS AJello! Sorry you feel so crappy! Wish there was something i could say!

[dory]

Just a quickie while I catch up ------

Angel - good luck with your scan! It's Monday in Dory land at least, so you should have your scan today. And worry? Sweetie - I am not sure the worry ever goes away. It changes, and the things you worry about are slightly different, but in the end it's the same theme - is this pregnancy going to have the ending I want? And like Ferals said - parenthood is worry, it's just the thing you worry about changes....

Tegam - I don't know how you do it! What a champ - but bet you must be tired. Can you come clean at my house?

Murray - my little lurker - when do your furries go for their snip?

Kit - I can so understand your vent...... was it good to see little tiger on the u/s?

Milly - I was wondering where you got to. Sorry you're not feeling well and feeling emotional. DH and I are relatively disorganised but getting there. It will all work out, so don't worry too much. I know what you mean about worries about baby having to be in NICU and for you it means being a lot longer away from home. I fully anticipated to be hospitalised for this preg and have an extremely prem baby so a lot of our mental prep has focused on those issues. I haven't been yet but doesn't make it any easier though....

Ric - that just sounds like M/S to me. It is always shocking when it comes back out looking very much like it went in. LOL. Take care of yourself and if you're not keeping anything down and are feeling really weak, then maybe a trip to the hossy to get some fluids? Being dehydrated and run down only makes you feel worse.

About bubs movements? It is so variable as to when you can first feel them. My obs reckons most people think its gas for ages when its really baby. It depends on where the placenta is attached in the uterus ( harder to feel bubs kick if you have an anterior/front placenta), the size of your uterus, whether you've gotten to this stage of preg before, whether you carry any abdomonial fat. I have felt the "flutters" or "bubbles" quite early on in each pregnancy, but have been unsure about what it is I have been feeling as my digestive system is really wacky. So at first it's actually hard to really know what you're feeling, and even as the pregnancy progresses it can be hard to tell exactly what is going on. A while ago ( sorry not good at remembering things at the mo) I had a huge laugh though.... it felt like my lunch just violently and suddenly rearranged itself down low, or like I was going to have some sort of butt explosion - and it was baby! LOL. Better baby than the other two options.

The very coolest thing that I love at the mo is just watching my tummy roil and move about as baby moves. I have no control over it and the shapes can be quite confronting - after all my belly has never looked like this before. It is awesome and mesmerising. I can spend a fair bit of time just watching....

So I probably felt bubbles or flutters between 12/16 weeks, depending on the pregnancy, and they stayed that way until at least 18/20 weeks. I was sure I felt different movements earlier but they were not "regular or frequent" just sort of once off's but they felt more like kicks than flutters. After 20 weeks the movements became more distinctive. In fact the first time DH felt this little bubs ( well any of our bubs in fact) move was the night before our 20 week scan - he got quite an impressive show of kicking and moving, which then didn't happen again so obviously for a week. Up until 27 weeks it is common apparently for there to be no real pattern to the babies movements, but after then most people start to notice a pattern, but it can still vary.

I am still not caught up but need to go do a few things. I'll be back.....

[dory]

Elise - congratulations on the safe arrival of Brody! 4 days old. I missed your ba... sorry. I am just so happy for you and such a handsome little man. I am just so so happy. Welcome little prince Brody

HPL - 33 weeks - awesome!

[eliselouise]

Thanx Dory i was actually just popping in to let you all know that he was born on Thursday morning at 4.40 am weighing 7 pd 3 and he is just perfect. Labour went well and was so worth every minute to see our precious little boy.
I havent had a chance to read through everyones posts as it is so busy in here now but i hope you are all doing well, wish you all the best and cant wait to see your Birth announcements

[ashie]

congratulations eliselouise on the safe arrival of your baby boy brody im so happy for you! oh he is so beautiful!

[ric]

Heartiest Congratulations Elise and Family for the safe arrival of Baby Boy Brody...So Happy for you. You must be enjoying every moment with your little Prince. How are you Dear? So nice to hear such a wonderful news. Congrats Once Again.

[Tegam]

Thanx Dory i was actually just popping in to let you all know that he was born on Thursday morning at 4.40 am weighing 7 pd 3 and he is just perfect. Labour went well and was so worth every minute to see our precious little boy.
I havent had a chance to read through everyones posts as it is so busy in here now but i hope you are all doing well, wish you all the best and cant wait to see your Birth announcements

CONGRATULATION! Happy Babymoon!

[murraycod]

CONGRATULATIONS ELISELOUISE ON THE SAFE ARRIVAL OF YOUR LITTLE MAN BRODY!!!

Dory, LMAO about your but explosion comment, how funny!!!!! My Kitties go for the snip on Thursday morning hehehehe!!! Now who's boss you naughty kittens!!!!

Girls, have had quite an uncomfortable couple of days, dunno if it's normal or if anyone else at my stage is feeling the sme thing.
I feel like I have a hard mass in my uterus (well I know I actually do, but YKWIM) no matter how I walk, sit, turn, try to sleep, it's quite evident and a little uncomfortable!!
It's not a complaining uncomfortable. Does anyone know the feeling of trying to sit down whilst being constipated?? Well it's like that but from the front.
Making it very hard to kneel down and help the oldies at work get their undies and socks on I tell you!!! I'm having enough trouble doing that to myself!!!

Today was my first day back at work, I just had 2 weeks off, and I swear to god, if one more person calls me fat, I'm going to take it more personally......I feel like frump girl....