I have had all my babys close together (about 22months between each) and I have never had any interventions or drugs other then breaking my waters to help bubs get out with the first two births.

With my first, I had bad 3rd degree tearing, bubs went into distress and needed to be resusitated and PPH, I also had a slight prolapse and abdominal seperation. The birth was actually pretty bad, and DH was scared I would die - I was too out of it to care.

I went onto have my second without any incidences - not even a little grazing when he was born.

With my third - he was a 10pound baby. I had severe SPD and M/S and just all round an absolutely horrendous pregnancy. He was 10 days overdue. My prolapse got significantly worse - but his birth was so easy and straight forward, my body done it without my even pushing at all - only very slight grazing, no tears at all. It was an easy birth. Probably the easiest of all, despite him being my biggest. The prolapse improved after months of pelvic floor exercises after the birth. I also had bad seperation of the abdominals, but that too got better with exercise after. My body had been at it's physical limit carrying such a big bub.

With my fourth, The pregnancy was realitively easy, my prolapse was much better then last time round, and I kept doing my pelvic floor exercises. Birth was uncomplicated, and straightforward. No tears, no graziing. And amazingly my prolapse has all but dissapearred (still there but extremely mild, don't notice it at all) - apparently those pelvic floor muscles have been doing something; even my doctor was surprised as she said she has never seen that amount of recovery before, without surgery. Only had minor abdominal seperation that went back to normal within 2 months. (I would do this birth again in a heartbeat - and I am very much NOT a person who enjoys birthing or labour).

The point I want you to take away from this is that, every single birth is different. It really is. It doesn't matter what happened last time, each time it is a clean slate. Also your body gets better at it. It has been through it before, so it now knows what to do and it does it much more effiecently.

The biggest thing for me has been overcoming my fear. It is a fear I developed because of my first birth, and one I had to work to overcome. because if you are scared, it can lead you to panic, and that can be more determental for your birthing plans they anything else. It is hard to have faith in your body and you own ability to give birth without complications, especially when the first time didn't go as planned or in any manner that is pleasent to remember. I know. But it doesn't mean that just because the first time turned out that way, that every time will.

Good luck deciding what to do.