SamiH - Thanks so much for posting! Will b watching as Im in a similar boat, basically that we want a VBAC and I am having a doula(note it's not a maybe!!) It is hard, DH thinks that if we are determined enough about it all that will be enough but I know it won't be at the time.
I love the suggestions that Flea has given and I might try to get a doula here for a no obligation chat to see if she can help me convince him!