Thank you ladies

Tobily - good suggestions!!! - much appreciated - I would never really just do it unless he was at least half way in with the idea . Just frustrating too cos I can't get out and express my deep sense of fear that something will happen, until bubs is born safe and sound and in my arms.

I want a doula for the right reasons I think - exactly to give him the encouragement and support he needs to better support me through labour - hopefully not too long 3rd time round I tend to vague out and really focus inwardly, so I think it might be perceived as disconnecting from him - but it is the only way I can get through the pain and contractions (why am I doing this again??? LOL)

Tanstar & Belfie - I will have a look at that thread Belfie - sure Tanstar will too now!

Ok, a chat on the weekend.

One comment did frighten me from the couple of doulas I have spoken too - that at the hospital at that baby boom time of year (HUH?? IS IT??) the midwives would welcome and appreciate a women who brings her own doula ..... scared me - I don't wanna give birth on a ward!!