Good to hear some other views. I think these feelings (for me anyway) go beyond the train of thought that I should feel grateful for what I have. I am so very very grateful for my two beautiful boys, but it still doesnt change the fact that I am sad I am not going to have a girl. I also am adopted (mum to cheeky girl06) so have experienced first hand the feelings people have when they cant have children at all (my adoption experience couldnt be more positive - I have wonderful parents) and I struggled to get pregnant and had to do two cycles of IVF before miraculously conceiving naturally on both occassion, so maybe I shouldnt be having these feelings, but I cant help it. I know I will have a wonderful relationship with my two boys (I will work very hard towards one) but I am sad I wont get to have a wonderful relationship with a daughter as well. I guess as my youngest is still only 5 months old, maybe I just need a bit more time to sort through these feelings and come to terms with the fact that a girl isnt in the picture for me and I have two beatiful boys instead . Although I think I will definitely seek some prfessional counselling to assist in this process.