I'm sorry for your partners loss - thats awful

My DH has the middle name of Allan - which is his grandfather's name who passed away whilst MIL was pregnant.

I agree with the others - honouring someone with a middle name is a good idea. First names can be confusing and might make people sad because they are constantly reminded of the fact that the person isn't with them anymore IYKWIM?

I'm not a fan of Carla (only cos I knew a total biatch with the name) but my physio's name is Carlie and she's really nice