i am a complete wreck....

we had our 20 week scan this morning for our 2nd child and there was a major problem with his/her heart - the doctor said it is likely to be a congenital heart defect, either Fallot's Tetralogy or Pulmonary Artery Stenosis.

he recommended an amino (booked in for Friday) to check if there is another associated chromosomal disorder (like Downes etc) as heart defects are often linked with other major disorders. we then have to go see a cardiologist to do a more detailed scan to work out the exact problem and to get more specific information - this will be in about a week or two.

i havent stopped crying since. i'm a wreck. i've been on the internet all morning finding out info and it just makes me more and more depressed. the baby will need open heart surgery soon after birth, this is a major issue, there seems to be lots of success with the operation, but each child is different and can have different levels of severity.

a termination was mentioned as an option..... but how can we decide if that is the right course of action?

has anyone been through this? does your child have this disorder? i need advice and support and help.... and lots of panadol because i currently have a huge headache!

help