Oh it's completely normal to have a preference one way or the other, and it doens't mean that if you got the opposite that you wouldn't love them any less at all, but sometimes it can be quite severe and you may need some counselling for it.
I think sometimes you prefer one over the other for various reasons - some want a first born son to continue the family name, others want a mother/daughter mother/son relationship etc. I really wanted our first to be a boy, not really sure why - partly because of the firstborn son thing but it wasn't definitively why I wanted a boy.
I think it is fairly natural to have a bit of a preference. I was hoping DD would be a girl but of course, I would have been just as happy if she had been a little boy. At my 20 weeks scan, we were told she was female but I didn't let myself believe it until she was actually born and kept telling everyone I thought it was a boy to protect my own heart a little. I hope that doesn't sound bad... it is hard to explain!
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Perfectly normal question I think - when I was pregnant with DD I really wanted a girl, this was mainly because I had just lost my little boy, and could not face the thought of replacing him.
Now I am pregnant again I am very confused as to what I want. I think to be honest I would prefer a girl as it will be cheaper as far as clothes as concerned!!
Anyway good luck with the scan hope all goes well.
I hoped for a boy, mostly because of my relationship with my mother, so when we found out at 18 weeks Jazz was a girl I cried and went through the worst disappointment I'd even felt... i had hoped for a boy, and the fear I felt about having a girl was almost overwhelming... I felt a lot of shame for the disappointment I felt, but you can't help what you feel and hope for. I did truly wonder how I would be able to mother a girl... I know with time I accepted it more, and I remember laying on the operating table during the c/s and thinking "OMG what am I going to do if its a boy?!?!?", so I had done a huge 180! Now i can't imagine it any other way... As long as you are honest with yourself anf let yourself grieve if thats something you need to do, or at least let yourself feel, you'll get through it. You can love your baby :hugs: xxxxx
I did hope to have a girl first time around, think I just loved the idea of dressing a DD up. Was not at all dissapointed when DS was born, though had convinced myslef it would be a boy as I figured I wouldn't get what I want LOL.
This time would love a girl, but don't care. Love DS to bits & how full on he is etc, already have the clothes etc. We will be finding out this time, so that will be good.
I have had this motherly instinct that its a boy, but i think thats only because most of the clothes and accessories i have bought are blue and green, nd seeing them in bubs room everyday makes me just assume itll be a boy.
My dp, really wants a girl and has a 100 buck bet going with me that its a girl.
I wouldnt be suprised if it comes out a girl, and ill be stuck with all this blue stuff, lol, but either way, im totally overjoyed, whether it boy or girl.
I think ill just stick with a boy but, in hope that i win this much earned 100 bucks :P
Leasha I've been going through a very similar thing to you: we haven't found out the sex of our baby but if I knew we have a boy I probably wouldn't be going through the process of exploring WHY I have such a problem with the mother-daughter relationship. I'm certain much of the emotional sh**** I've had to sort through really relates to parenting in general and not mothers & daughters so I'm glad we don't know.
I'm at the point now where I'd be quite happy with either sex - still a slight leaning towards a boy but I actually feel it IS a girl now - we tend to get given what we 'need' in life My DP has admitted he'd really love to have a daughter and I can so see him with one
Yep I think its perfectly normal. I hoped with our first for a boy and cried so hard when we founf out it was a girl. Of course when she was born I couldn't have wanted anything else.
This time I think either would be nice, I think its another girl which is perfectly fine but a boy would be great too.
Hey its very normal to want a particular sex
I have always wanted a little girl and so has DP. So when we found out we were to have a boy I did feel a fair bit of disappointment. The weirdest thing is, Ive felt it was a girl before I found out and even now I still have a strong girl feeling, so Im very confused!!
Im just going to have to wait for little one to be born to know for certain, but now I will be happy with either
I think its normal to want a particular sex. With DS was hoping for a boy. If he had been a girl I would have had alot of disappointment. #2 I hoped for a girl and we found out at the 20 week scan its a girl I don't think I would have been disappointed if it had been a boy but I was hoping for a girl. If we go for #3 I know I want another boy and I think I would be disappointed if it wasn't a boy.
totally normal, i remember when they told me DS was going to be a girl i lived with that from 20weeks till 37 ( when he was born by c/s) and she came out a he it took me 2-3 mths to get over it.
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