Reply With QuoteI found out and DH didn't. I was the only one who knew all pregnancies and let everyone know I knew when they asked the question. I played the game and didn't get caught outIn fact I confused DH all three times
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occasionally when people asked "what is it" I would reply "a giraffe".
but this is coming from someone who rubs people's stomachs if they rub mine without asking ...
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I found out and DH didn't. I was the only one who knew all pregnancies and let everyone know I knew when they asked the question. I played the game and didn't get caught out
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Leesa - a little white lie sounds okay to me! If we go ahead with not telling I might use that.
Just Me - yes I can see it would be very easy to accidently let slip!
Little Mrs - thanks, would be nice to have a little secret. I remember that pressure when I wouldn't spill on our son to be's name!
8 Weeks - good luck
Peanutter -
Heather72 - oh one of my friends has done that with all 4 of her pregnancies! Would be so hard but pretty cool too.
Thanks again everyone, have enjoyed reading all your replies. This time next week we'll knowand will hopefully have it figured out as to telling or not. I'm really leaning towards not though!
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We found out all three times. With DD1 we didn't tell anyone and managed to confuse a lot of people! I told people before we knew what the baby was that I would refer to it both as he and she, so if I slipped up and said 'she' I would just cover up with a comment about 'him'. I left a few blue singlet and suits around the house to give family the wrong idea. It was lovely for DH and I to share a secret no one else knew.
With DS, we were told at the 20 week US that he was a boy... and that he was most likely an 'unviable pg' due to a health issue. Termination was suggested and his gender was so utterly irrelevant that we told everyone he was a boy. (He's now a healthy almost-6 year old.)
DD2 we found out, but again called her both he and she and kept it a secret from everyone. I found knowing the gender when I was pg helped me to bond to my babies, but I know a lot of people like a surprise.
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i have a friend/work mate who found out the sex, and just said straight out that she wasnt telling anyone else.
none of there business - it's yours and dhs special time
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What if you don't want to know?
DH and I don't want to know what we're having (#1 for us). We have our 20 week scan later this week. Any tips for how to avoid finding out by accident from medical or reception staff, both at the scan and in the months ahead?
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We found out with ds and had chosen his name even before we knew he was a boy so there was no surprises for anyone. This time around we are gonna find out and do our absolute best not to spill the beans to anyone. Im one of those ppl that loves having surprises for ppl but hate being surprised so there is no way I couldn't find out the sex. We'll see how long it lasts before everybody knows hahah especially if its a girl I dont think I'll be able to contain my excitment
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I found out with both but told everyone we didn't find out. I referred to the baby as he sometimes & she sometimes. With DD, even DH didn't know I'd found out and he still has no idea! It was incredibly hard keeping it secret though so if you think you'll struggle and don't want everyone to know, don't find out. If it was just up to me, I would have found out & told everyone both times.
Therebel - just make sure you tell them at the start of your scan that you don't want to know, & they will normally try to avoid that area totally.
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With medical staff a lot of the time they will ask if you want to know, otherwise make it clear when talking to them that you don't want to find out - they may switch off your viewing screen while they're doing some of the measurements etc if bub is being a bit of a flasher on the day and most staff are pretty good about not giving the game away if you ask them not to tell
We will be finding out but keeping it hushed. (parents will know and going to be sworn to secrecy) but everyone else it's going to be kept a secret.
I've just told people we aren't finding out till it comes out! Lol!
Mind you I'm not the best at keeping my own little secrets!!! Lol
Sent from my iPhone (via Tapatalk) so please forgive the spelling mistakes...
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My husband and I were the same. TBH unless they spend a lot of time looking for the genitals I really couldn't tell anyway LOL It's hard to know what your looking at sometimes unless they tell you.
Our place asked us if we were having a surprise or not, and didn't even try to show us because we said we were.
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I found it so exciting when DD was born to find out what she was. I was having 3 scans a week for the last month and we managed to keep it secret.
Even if you find out, you don't have to say. You don't have to tell people. It's like your own little secret between you and your partner...
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Nickle - I'm so glad your DS was okay, that would've been awful. I like the idea of saying straight out that you'll be referring to bubs as both he and she.
Corolla Chick - that's how I feel too, thanks!
Raffy - we sound very similar
Rowellen - that would be soo hard to keep from your DH!
LynsDan - good luck!
Charlotte91 - exactly
Okay, I think we're going to try our very hardest to keep it to ourselves...well I'm sure DH will have no problem, it's me that's going to struggle! Though I'm already getting pressure from people which is only making me more determined to keep a secret. Thank you everyone for your replies!
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We decided not to tell with DD, but I got so use to talking about "HER" that it gave it away LOL I even did that with her name
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I saw this great idea for a party if you are interested ...
It's a gender reveal party. The people had all their friends over for afternoon tea and asked them to wear pink or blue (depending on what gender they thought the baby was going to be). They also had a cake iced in neutral colours but when they cut into it, it was blue inside revealing it was a boy. I thought it sounded like a really fun idea and something a bit different.
You can see the blog link here: Kate Landers Events, LLC: Baby Gender Reveal Party...Revealed on Layla Grayce! (if you click on the pink writing, it takes you to a more detailed blog about the party).
Maybe a bit OTT, but I thought it sounds fantastic!
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I found out with both my girls but DH didn't want to know either time. The first time he didn't know I knew, but the second time he did. Most people respected my choice not to tell them - I certainly wasn't going to tell anyone before my DH found out except for my Mum, and that was with his blessing. DH's family the second time were very painful - constantly hassling me to just tell them and that they wouldn't tell DH. Got pretty uncomfortable cos it got beyond a joke - they seriously didn't understand why I wouldn't tell them. Our girls both had a male pregnancy name - obviously given before we knew what gender - that had special meaning to us so I found it easy to refer to either by that name and always as he or him.
I think these days that so many people find out that its a pretty standard question to ask. People should respect your decision though if you say yep, we found out but you've got until the birth announcement to find out.
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Yes, the best tip would be IF the sonographer asks if you want to know the gender , just say NO. Or before the scan starts tell them you don't want to know. The receptionist or other medical staff are not privvy to that sort of information ... and well quite frankly, the 20 week scan looks at far more important things. Finding out the baby's gender is just an added bonus and not an essential part of the scan.
Nae x
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