We found out all three times. With DD1 we didn't tell anyone and managed to confuse a lot of people! I told people before we knew what the baby was that I would refer to it both as he and she, so if I slipped up and said 'she' I would just cover up with a comment about 'him'. I left a few blue singlet and suits around the house to give family the wrong idea. It was lovely for DH and I to share a secret no one else knew.

With DS, we were told at the 20 week US that he was a boy... and that he was most likely an 'unviable pg' due to a health issue. Termination was suggested and his gender was so utterly irrelevant that we told everyone he was a boy. (He's now a healthy almost-6 year old.)

DD2 we found out, but again called her both he and she and kept it a secret from everyone. I found knowing the gender when I was pg helped me to bond to my babies, but I know a lot of people like a surprise.