I am a bit of a tell all person when it comes to bubs gender. Like Allboys I found telling ppl with #3 a little dishearting when I got negative or sympathetic responses. If I have another bub (a big if) I won't be telling anyone.
From a spectators perspective I like it when my friends keep the gender a surprise, it is more exciting! Although I do get jealous (just a little) when someone has a boy lol.
Goodluck...Just stick to your guns and politely tell ppl that you want everyone to have a surprise.... So your not telling nanana..na..na
With DS I decided that I wanted to know - but i wanted to keep it a secret. I ended up telling everyone on BB () and my ob...and then my sister (cos she is the only family that is nearby and she saw all the blue stuff!). So, in the end we told everyone.
With my current pg, DH and I decided to tell people that we are expecting a boy. BUT...I wish we hadn't. People can't keep their opinions to themselves, and seem genuinely disappointed for us that we aren't having a girl!
I'm glad I know, but I think I could have easily kept quiet/secret on the gender.
I think you have the right attitude to the whole thing - I don't think people mean to be rude, they are just interested and excited for you.
We found out and told everyone each time, I knew I'd slip up at some stage otherwise LOL! Everyone we knew was happy to know the gender early except our next-door neighbour, but his wife always asked me on the sly ha ha! We tried to keep it secret from him each time, but with DD one of our other neighbours told him, not realising he didn't want to know!
It is TOTALLY up to you. Don't feel guilty for saying "Yes we know, but we're not sharing with anyone". Most people will just leave it there and if they don't, just say too bad in a teasing tone, then they shouldn't take offense. We didn't share our babies names, that was one thing we kept secret. FIL would try and trick me into telling him all the time, but I never fell for it .
nup it's a secret for us! We're so sick to death of all the gender stereotyping you get from just about EVERYONE as soon as they know you're having a baby. "oh you MUST have pink for a girl!" i HATED pink growing up, yet just about everything i was ever given, from my drink tumbler, to the side-pods on my go-kart were pink! It was forced down my throat! And when i buy some baby toys like trucks (i'm a truckie for a living) i get "but you dont know what you're having yet, what if it's a girl" well with a mum that drives trucks why wouldnt my child, boy or girl, get to play with trucks and come in the truck like i did with my dad? I used to always steal my brothers hot wheels and tonka toys when i was little! So there you have it, it's all a big secret, which is annoying that it has to be that way but even the people who say they understand your aversion to the pink + frilly or the blue + tough, they just cant help themselves when it comes down to it, so it's better this way, no offending anyone if we hated their pressies, and no pressies that we hate!
I found a lot of people would ask if we were telling people when they are asked if we knew what we were having. People really shouldn't be offended if you don't want to tell them the gender. It is completely up to you.
I did however think that helping other people with their gift buying was one of the benefits of knowing.
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) and my ob...and then my sister (cos she is the only family that is nearby and she saw all the blue stuff!). So, in the end we told everyone.
in a teasing tone, then they shouldn't take offense. We didn't share our babies names, that was one thing we kept secret. FIL would try and trick me into telling him all the time, but I never fell for it 
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