With DS I decided that I wanted to know - but i wanted to keep it a secret. I ended up telling everyone on BB () and my ob...and then my sister (cos she is the only family that is nearby and she saw all the blue stuff!). So, in the end we told everyone.
With my current pg, DH and I decided to tell people that we are expecting a boy. BUT...I wish we hadn't. People can't keep their opinions to themselves, and seem genuinely disappointed for us that we aren't having a girl!
I'm glad I know, but I think I could have easily kept quiet/secret on the gender.
I think you have the right attitude to the whole thing - I don't think people mean to be rude, they are just interested and excited for you.
We found out and told everyone each time, I knew I'd slip up at some stage otherwise LOL! Everyone we knew was happy to know the gender early except our next-door neighbour, but his wife always asked me on the sly ha ha! We tried to keep it secret from him each time, but with DD one of our other neighbours told him, not realising he didn't want to know!
It is TOTALLY up to you. Don't feel guilty for saying "Yes we know, but we're not sharing with anyone". Most people will just leave it there and if they don't, just say too bad in a teasing tone, then they shouldn't take offense. We didn't share our babies names, that was one thing we kept secret. FIL would try and trick me into telling him all the time, but I never fell for it .
nup it's a secret for us! We're so sick to death of all the gender stereotyping you get from just about EVERYONE as soon as they know you're having a baby. "oh you MUST have pink for a girl!" i HATED pink growing up, yet just about everything i was ever given, from my drink tumbler, to the side-pods on my go-kart were pink! It was forced down my throat! And when i buy some baby toys like trucks (i'm a truckie for a living) i get "but you dont know what you're having yet, what if it's a girl" well with a mum that drives trucks why wouldnt my child, boy or girl, get to play with trucks and come in the truck like i did with my dad? I used to always steal my brothers hot wheels and tonka toys when i was little! So there you have it, it's all a big secret, which is annoying that it has to be that way but even the people who say they understand your aversion to the pink + frilly or the blue + tough, they just cant help themselves when it comes down to it, so it's better this way, no offending anyone if we hated their pressies, and no pressies that we hate!
I found a lot of people would ask if we were telling people when they are asked if we knew what we were having. People really shouldn't be offended if you don't want to tell them the gender. It is completely up to you.
I did however think that helping other people with their gift buying was one of the benefits of knowing.
With DD we didn't find out even though everyone thought we did.
With DS when we said we didn't know...they didn't think otherwise - even though we did.
We didn't tell anyone we knew, except my Godfather, the day before he died.
Sadly when you're pregnant every one thinks they have a right to an opinion of everything about it.
yes we also found out and told everyone but have decided to keep our names private. I just tell people we still haven't got a short list and probably won't til we're in hospy. But really we have 4 names and only DH and i know them.
everyone we've told has been super excited and they get a huge smile on their face.
We did ask people if they really wanted to know before we told them. and everyone said ''yes, yes yes''. lol.
One of my friends found out with her second child, they already had a boy and only wanted 2 kids. but they just kept it to themselves. she told me later she found out the sex. (it was a girl)
Another friend of a friend found out and told everyone the name. my friend said she felt it sort of took some of the excitement out of it all when the bub was born. But i know others who've done the same and say they felt really bonded to their bub.
This is something I am struggling with right now. I'm not sure if I want to find out the sex of the baby, but DH definitely does.
The thing is, I know that when they ask me if I want to know the sex, I'm not going to be able to say no.
Because this was an IVF pregnancy, it wasn't exactly a surprise so I think that we are going to keep the gender to ourselves and just tell people that we didn't find out. I have no issues with telling a white lie about that.
The good thing is, my family is all back home in Scotland so I won't have any awkward conversations with anyone about that and won't have to lie to anyone's faces. My mum keeps asking if I'm going to "find out what it is" and I keep telling her I know what it is - A BABY!!
) and my ob...and then my sister (cos she is the only family that is nearby and she saw all the blue stuff!). So, in the end we told everyone.
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in a teasing tone, then they shouldn't take offense. We didn't share our babies names, that was one thing we kept secret. FIL would try and trick me into telling him all the time, but I never fell for it 
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