glenny- IKWYM. I had the idea of how I wanted my perfect birth to go and was worried about how disappointed I would be if I didn't get it. Well, I didn't get my perfect birth and actually ended up with a c/s. I have heard of other's who have had very similar births to mine who were really traumatised by it but I actually wasn't. And what made the difference for me I think was that I never felt I wasn't in control. I made the decisions, I was informed, sure things didn't go to plan but I was always consulted and told what was going on and free to make the decisions myself. Nothing was taken out of my hands. So I think that's the main thing. Have carers that respect you and who you trust and be informed about your options. You will be great!