I got to where you're at. I was so focussed on the birth I had myself tied up in knots if it wasn't going to be a perfect homebirth. I read so much about birth it did my head in. I needed to let that go and I started doing more reading about when baby was here - 2 great books are Baby on Board and the Wonder Weeks.

When it came to the birth, bub came early and was a breech baby. We were informed enough to be able to engage in a dialogue with the doctors etc when it came to a c/s, continuous monitoring etc. I ended up with a great birth (until the end). Even though our baby sadly died, it had NOTHING to do with the birth. In fact, the birth turned out to be a wonderful experience for us. A lot of my "techniques" went out the window, but all the preparation kept me calm and I had a drug free, natural, vaginal breech birth.

Persephone's idea about a Birth Preferences list instead of a Birth Plan is really good. The main thing to be sure of is that you and your support team agree about all the major things, so you don't feel undermined afterwards if say you end up with a c/s you didn't want.

GL