becmc, what I meant was the OB believes that I could have laboured with Jackson given that he was a small baby (he was not the OB I had with Jackson who told me I couldn't) and that was where the mistake was made. He believes this baby is too big to coincide with a vaginal birth as well as a previous scar, that if this baby was around Jackson's side it would be a possibility.

We had our last antenatal class tonight, and I spoke to the midwife there who told me (even though she is not allowed to give personal opinions) that the OB i saw is generally happy to reccommend VBAC's as long as they are in the right circumstances and he would only reccomed against it if he truly thought there was reason to be unsafe. Whereas some are totally against VBAC, she said he is definately not, he is one of the good guys.

I guess this is sort of what I needed to hear, I needed to know whether to trust my Dr's opinion or the OB's opinion, and she said my particular Dr is generally happy to let anyone try a VBAC, but a high number of his labours end up in c/s which is not the odds I was hoping for - when it comes to the crunch, I want to do what's safe for me and my baby. I think I may have gone into the appointment today with an already negative attitude towards this OB thinking that he would talk me out of VBAC no matter what, and formed an opinion about him which doesn't seem to be true.

I think if I see my Dr. tomorrow and he agrees with what the OB was saying and reccomends I go for c/s I am "happy" to go with that decision - completely dissapointed, but feeling that I have chosen the sagest option. I guess things cant always go the way we picture them. The antenatal midwife also went through Jackson's birth with me and how to make sure that the things that happened with him didn't happen again etc. and how it could be a lot more of a positive experience even if it is a c/s.

anney - you can elect a private OB through a public hospital, but they have to be affiliated with that hospital, you can't just go and choose any OB, most Public hospitals give you a list of private OB's that deliver with them for you to choose from if you want to use an OB

Alan - I am not near warburton, but thank you soooo much for the more than generous offer, a really really lovely gesture that I appreciate more than I can express. it warms my heart to know that there are still kind caring people like you out there!