Thanks Beema,

You guys have been really great i dont think i would have made it through the last 24 hours sane if it wasn't for everyone on here. I read your birth story and wow...

I just almost wish it was more clear cut. I guess i am naturally such a detailed person i just feel like i am neither coming or going.

Hopefully ob will just do a swab for me today that would be great then we'll know for sure.
Aww thanks hun, I hope it didn't freak you out, it was all very quick...

I hope you are meeting with your OB and he is being thorough in his assessment, I really feel for you, you should have to be going through this, I don't understand why it is so often the case that people forget that just because it is your first it doesn't mean that you can't have a prem. And don't really take your concerns seriously, or want to fob you off as a stressed, worried FT Mum

I understand what you mean by clear cut as well, as it was for me by the time we got to the hospital there was no denying I was in PTL, but it seems that if it is not blatantly obvious one can be ignored and shoved to the side, which is so unfair and I truely believe that if our medical practitioners were more attentive in these possible cases of PTL that they may be able to prevent or delay the delivery of more premature babies.

I have a good friend who after 2 prems (35wk and 38wk), was begging to be monitored more closely and she was basically shunned around, with her concerns being ignored until a mutual friend managed to get her help through a high risk OB and by then it was too late and she was already dilating and funnelling (had a cervial suture placed in) and went on to deliver her wee little boy at 25 weeks. But if they had just listened to her earlier on and how well she knew her body, she could have highly likely baked him for a lot longer.

It concerns me that there are some members in the medical professsion that just aren't listening, if I were in their position I would be much happier if my patient came and saw me more, than not. I have seen my OB, 5 times already this pregnancy, and that was up to 10 weeks! The last two times I said to her, gee you are going to be sick of seeing me by the end of this pregnancy and she said absolutely not, I would prefer to see you as often as need be to prolong the pregnancy, and I have her private mobile and am to call her 24/7 when ever something changes, as we are searching for clues which may lead to ways to prolong this pregnancy as long as possible. Term for me it highly unlikely - although I am still aiming and focussing on it, but I can deal with what comes with having a prem. As I have been there before and I have heavily exposed myself to the world of premature babies, and I feel that I can be more prepared mentally and emotionally for what ever comes along. It will not be easy road but it will be a little easier to understan as I will have educated myself...

I am that you get some clear cut definitive answers today, big hugs xxoo