I actually rang through to the birthing suite at my local hospital during the week to ask them some advice about my 'Harry" as I call it.... they recommended putting a cold facewasher into the freezer for a while and then laying down with it 'between my cheeks' for relief - it was very much a relief, so much so that I fell asleep! I have also found that using a cream from the Chemist (Anusol or Rectinol) helps to almost numb Harry overnight, making him less irritable during the day, I also agree with the other girls - try not to sit for long periods of time as it puts stress on the area making them more irritated.