I gave birth in a Melbourne hospital & had 4 people in there with me at some parts of the labour - even quite late on. Right before they vacced him out I had 4 there. They cleared the room for the birth though - it was just my partner & I. They would have allowed others but my parents left the room & then the middy asked if I wanted my MIL to leave (she came up close & whispered it) and then she got her out quick smart.
yeah i had my grandma at my dd birth and i remember at one point looking up when they were breaking the waters and my legs were well very spread and shes right in prime veiwing position same as when she was born...kinda weird lol but i would like dh and mum there if possible and hopefully a student midwife
See, ideally I'd like 4: my DF, MIL-to-be (only 5 wks away!!), and my 2 best friends. But as I'm in Melb, based on Feeb's advice I may be only allowed 2 which would knock the 2 friends out I guess. I just don't get why SO many people in his family as well as good (not great) friends want to be in there.
This is the only time in my life where it's actually easier that both of my parents are no longer alive and I have no siblings. If they were, my gosh I'd be literally fricked.
OMG! I feel for you hon! Really, why do so many of your friends and family feel the need to be there?! What a position they're putting you in!
If I was you, I'd simply tell them all that it's a personal and special moment you want to experience with your partner and you will only be taking a max of 2 extra family members / friends for support. I honestly think your contractions would stop in the tracks and your vajuts would shut up shop if it had that many people looking at it!
I would imagine 2 or 3 people with you would be the norm. I'm taking in my DH and sister and hopefully a close friend who is a trainee midwife but that's it. I already know all I want is supportive people (for both me and DH!) and as less distraction as possible so I can listen to my body and get on with the job.
Good luck with letting everyone down - you poor love!!
When I had DS I only had Dh in the room with me but the waiting room outside was full to the brim - we had already said that no-one was to come in but according to the midwives comments it was getting pretty teste out there and sent Dh out to reason with them. Luckily I had a short labour.
After the birth (about and hour) they let them all in - two at a time. I hadn't even gotten out of bed yet and there was still blood everywhere and my little brother fainted (13 at the time - certainly put him off DTD for a while) In hindsight I would have rathered wait until I was on my feet before letting everyone in.
With Dd we were 1000km from family so it was much more relaxed :-)
Before I got pregnant I always thought I would want to have a million people in there as it is a beautiful thing. Then I got pregnant, and as I near closer I think 2 will be enough. Probably my mom and DF. It is just more of a special thing now and I want only the select few to share in those first few beautiful moments when she is born. Plus the fact my vagina will be on display is another reason to reconsider.
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