Whoppa size baby on the way!!!

[Tanya]

Hi Mel... you sound scared. And by the sound of it you have every reason to be scared! If I may give you a piece of advice? Your difficult labour you had with your last baby may not have been due to size, but due to your anxiousness and lack of support. Your baby may have also been in a difficult position. There is so much evidence to suggest a stressed, scared and anxious labouring woman can hinder the process of labour.

Just remember that babies are very pliable and flexible and so is your pelvis... both of which are suited to labour and birth.

Make sure you have a well thought out birth plan and arm yourself with support

Please don't let your caregivers scare you even more with talk of a big baby.

I wish you all the best and please don't hesitate to vent or ask for more advice in here.

Tanya

ETA: where are you located, Mel? Maybe we could go on the Doula hunt for you

[butterflyz2]

Thank you very very much for your help Tanya!

Your an angel!

Im definately going to look into it. Ive already PM you, with the same comment.

The info your provided, is like a weight lifted off my shoulders!!!!

Yes looking back at things, your right, i guess with added stress, labour does take longer, even though you want to rush it and get out of it as soon as possible!, at least for me at the time it was the case. At that time i felt they were impatient with me, and i was giving them a 'headache' with my winge. I even remembering apologising to them for all my winging!, after when the baby was delievered!! Now i look back and think why should have i apologised, they should know that some woman can only handle so much!!!. So the doula would be great. ALthough i would only need a doula just for the labour and birthing period, and not so much as to adjusting when i get home.

Yes i can see it now, my doula being a bouncer/body guard for me. Ill direct her to punch a few unsympathetic midwifes out!lol...kidding.

Mel

[Trillian]

Hi Mel, I second what everyone else has said about getting a doula - worth their weight in gold if you ask me. The other thing that you could do to avoid an unfriendly setting is to stay at home as long as possible before going to hospital. Also I would write a birth plan clearly stating to the staff that you vocalise as opposed to internalise your birth pains and that it would be unproductive for them to tell you to 'shoosh up'.

When you book your doula, you discuss with her what sort of things you need the most and go from there, but it is very handy to know that they will do post natal JIC you decide you do need it.

Good luck and please keep us in the loop with what is going on OK?