TMTM - some good points, thanks. It would have made a lot more sense if my friend had phoned me with this sort of info instead of just texting me and questioning me over and over and simply saying 'what would I know, I'm only a midwife' but without actually giving me any reason for the 'don't do it' comments.
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Oh, I'm sure!! Lecturing doesn't do anyone any good. She could have said, "I have some thoughts on this if you feel like discussing it," and you could have responded had you wanted to.