Desperately need help...can a 7 year old get af??

[danniellabella]

Oh Skye. Hugs to you. She's far too young to have to deal with this. I remember when I got my period at 12 how emotional I and my mum were, I just couldn't imagine how you and your DD must be feeling. It ceratinly does sound like AF though

[prama]

i think so too. mooncup too complicated for a little girl who prob doesnt understand it all..

[Butterfly Child]

Oh hun, big cuddles your way hunny, It must be so hard on both of you hun xxx
oh a question what is a mooncup?

[~clover~]

Ok, if it's stopped, & I take her to the doc, how will he tell what it is?
I told her we'll try see our usual doctor coz she knows him very well. Has been seeing him since she was born. She's ok with that idea.

I'm waiting to actually say anything about AF just yet. I have also not mentioned pads yet either. There has been nothing since she got home. We'll see what happens over night. I'll still take her to see gp no matter what though.

[Santosha]

Sorry if this has been suggested already - I've just skimmed through the posts... but did you say you got AF yourself a few days ago? Just another thought to throw into the mix:

I'm sure you know that women who live together often end up with their menstrual cycles in sync due to the influence of pheromones. In my experience, some women can have a HUGE influence on others - eg. if I spend more than a few hours with one particular friend of mine and she is pre-menstrual, it can throw my whole (usually very regular) cycle out. If it is AF, I wonder if it's just a little bleed triggered by the presence of your hormones / pheromones, rather than something established by her own maturation - just a theory??

Obviously this requires lots more investigation (than my stab-in-the-dark theories) and I really hope you get some clear and comforting answers very soon. Hugs to you.

[briggsy's girl]

do yoiu have any liners at home hun? maybe get her to wear a small liner so you can monitor how much she's bleeding. ask her when she notices it kwim?

if she has started with af, or the gp suspects it, they may do some hormone screening to check on what is happening. it might be good to prepare her that they may have to look downstairs as well - that could be very frightening for a seven year old

hope your mum can get a car to you

[~clover~]

Sorry if this has been suggested already - I've just skimmed through the posts... but did you say you got AF yourself a few days ago? Just another thought to throw into the mix:

I'm sure you know that women who live together often end up with their menstrual cycles in sync due to the influence of pheromones. In my experience, some women can have a HUGE influence on others - eg. if I spend more than a few hours with one particular friend of mine and she is pre-menstrual, it can throw my whole (usually very regular) cycle out. If it is AF, I wonder if it's just a little bleed triggered by the presence of your hormones / pheromones, rather than something established by her own maturation - just a theory??

Obviously this requires lots more investigation (than my stab-in-the-dark theories) and I really hope you get some clear and comforting answers very soon. Hugs to you.

That also crossed my mind.

Unfortunately I only have black liners, so they aren't any good...
I did tell her she might need to be looked at, she's emarrassed, but ok with it iykwim.

[Turkish Delight]

oh such a big thing for a little girl to go through. I feel for both you and DD. I don't know how you'd explain it to such a little girl. I agree with the panty liner which BG suggested. Just to measure how much.

My gf had her first AF at 7 and she developed sooooo fast. Her boobies where probably a C cup by grade 6. not saying that will happen to your DD but it can.

Poor bub. She needs so much support and so do you.

xxoo

[prama]

here;s hoping it;s something simple like from her sports and not AF.
gosh Skye, Anth will get so freaked, wont he?

[~clover~]

She actually told DH. I didn't say a word, or tell her to. Just told them its time to ring dad & she was first. Told him everything. He's really stoked that she told him like that, but, of course, **** himself! Poor Bri had to wait while he talked to me to get the full explanation & double checked I'd asked all the right questions. After the initial, why, how & its not right were out of the way I could tell he wished he was home. Even though he told me thats all my department!
I'm off to google. I know it can be a scary thing that google, but I need it for some sanity right now!!

[kelebek]

you've been given lot's of great advice already but just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you. Definitely don't envy you

[~clover~]

Do you think they'd test her for abuse? If so, does anyone know what that would involve? I'm not so sure I want them to go too far in case all the seeing whats up leaves her feeling violated...
Does that make sense? Do you get what I mean?

[Visitor7]

If they did suspect abuse, then they would need to do an internal to check. But I would assume that would only happen after thoroughly questioning from people in that field.
When I got AF (at 10) it started with a few brown patches on my undies. I had NO idea what it was, and was so scared I just pretended it wasn't there. It was only that my grandmother was washing my clothes (we were on holidays at her house) and she noticed it. She asked me about and I confessed LOL. I had not had 'that talk' and still had no idea. It was so daunting. By the time I was 11 I was wearing bras and was a c cup by the time I started high school.

Good luck with it all when you go to the dr.

[Lulu]

Look, in the event that she fell funny at school, or on her bike or something, they would have to have a look wouldn't they?
If they do have a look, it's becuase they need to - you will be in there with her, holding it together well (cos you HAVE to). It's a part of her body that might need to be looked at, that's all.

It might just be she is starting to get AF, and although it would be sorta kinda better if it didn't hit for a few years but there won't be much you can do.

[~clover~]

Yeah, I know.

If she were 9 or 10, I wouldn't think twice & would be confident that it was all just part of life.

I dunno. Its all so daunting. Confusing. I actually wouldn't mind too much if it is AF, coz I'd have an answer & that would mean it wasn't something more seriouse. But I'd much prefer if it was a fall! But being inside for 5 days not being able to ride bikes & run feral has me wondering.

I do think I'm being paranoid over nothing really & that it'll all blow over & in 4 or 5 years we might go through what really is AF, & by then we are both more ready for it. But I would much rather be safe than sorry!

And, yes, I will hold it together. I haven't lost it yet, lol.

[sas85]

Ok, if it's stopped, & I take her to the doc, how will he tell what it is?

Even if you've already washed the ones you originally found, do you still have her undies she came home in? Keep them, put them in a plastic bag and take them to the Dr's with you. Hope you can get a car soon and have a proper chat with your Doc.

[AwesomeFoursome]

I hope everything is okay and you get it sorted out quickly.

[~clover~]

Well there's nothing over night, so sending her to school today. Will be trying to get an appointment somewhere today or tomorrow.