With her behaviour I wouldn't be encouraging her to live anywhere else. It sounds like she's screaming for attention and wants a parent
I'm sure that's what it sounds like. But if her way of screaming for attention is to disrupt the family when I'm basically disabled and sick on top of that as well as being pregnant, staying out every weekend and stealing her friend's stuff, when we also have a high maintenance toddler and a baby on the way as well as just having finished buying/selling a house and now in the middle of moving ... there's no way we can give her that attention right now. It would be a different story if my health was good and we had no other 'big' things going on. We can't revolve the entire family around her needs when she is continually disrupting it rather than supporting it. We have offered family counselling, she doesn't want to go. We have told her that if she needs more one-on-one time with her dad, she only needs to say so. DP took a day off work so that he could take her and her mates out for her birthday. Her response was to wag school for the entire day (after swearing black and blue just 48 hours previously that she would not miss any more classes hereon in) and not turn up for dinner with her dad. So he lost an entire day's wages for nothing. If she wants attention, she needs to learn to ask for it in a mature way not in a toddler's way. We already have one of those. We have to think of the needs of ALL the family; not just hers unfortunately.