Thanks so much Marydean - presenting her with the options is the most sensible thing to do.

DP had a chat with her today. I thought she may be put out that she wouldn't be going to the same school as she had been the last time she was here for 8 months.

BUT, she's all FOR moving to Yarraville saying "I was a bit over Northcote anyway" ... ahhh the fickleness of teenagers!

Then she started househunting online for us!

So feel much better now and not the most selfish stepmum in the world.

Thanks again for your post - it made SO much sense.