yes sorry about that. it is a totally previous thread not just a previous post on this thread where we chatted re counselling and how much i did over the years and how little it changed the course of things or helped my health. my health was helped the most when they moved out!!! and i had a more humane workload
and when i get on with my life and switch off from their dramas
counselling is helpful specific and then get on with it i find. and counsellors even said that i am levelheaded and need friends not counsellors, but i use both specifically not regularly. and as i said i find getting on with my lfie helps me the most.

yes i have explored alot about not being a victim
not lettign things effect me
boundaries
i did so many courses on it
i've talked about this specific topic over and over

and yet i am manipulated tormented tortured blackmailed abused and my kids learn from my ex and from my mother and my mother contibutes to the abuse too

and as mentioned teens dont have the life experience

the timing of her birthday was such taht i've just paid so much expenses already and now suddenly it will be taken from me.

my mother supports it

we agreed on her taking half

1 year ago i had 5 kids living at home that i was supporting on some 20 000 a year
no i dont have the rights to set boundaries with children who are troubled or have been very sick in hospital and yet i still need to care for them for their sake so i do get screwed again and again and again.

this child wants money for driving lessons and also waxing ( she inherited extremely hairy genes and also a beutician siling maybe got her hooked on waxing. ) she is a good kid.

other kids were not one was on drugs one was a good kid but a money drain and had anorexia so again my hands were tied she was too sick for me to do much and if she was working and not delcairng i kept treyign to chase it up but it never happened still. her attitude now is what really disturbs me the things she said as i wrote above about now the sister wanting to take centrelink

my mothers attitude disturbs me
i am waiting for these 2 younger ones to grow up so i can move to a cheaper suburb. meanwhile i am stuck here have to pay this roof etc as someone else mentioned, and how much did i get the other day a grand total of $173 for a whole week. that wont pay for anything, not bills, not car repairs, not home repairs, not school books, not mortgage, not tuturoing or camps or clothes. its really not much money and to want to take that away when i dont ahve a husband or a thriving career is very disturbing for me.
i knew in a few years any money i get will cut out but at least let me have it till then while i work on solutions while still facing many challenges with my kids all of which is on me.

my mums attitude was the daughter will take half for expenses because my mum says that she cant give any pocket money to help her because she has to pay 30 000 for a lawyer my daughter with the baby had to hire becasue of trouble the birth father was causing.

but when my mother hired a solicitor i didnt win tattslotto, why should i be put under more pressure. and this daughter who wants the youth allowance wont always have driving lessons so why should she always have half of the youth allowance?

i dont ahve a husband or a father and they ahve learnt from tehir father and siblings nad my mother that they can get away with abusing me

cou8nsellers didnt help anything my kdis have done such incredibly complicated abusive torment to me time and time again particularly 3 years ago but even this year and my mother joined in trying to black mail me despite professional advice i had.

i've learnt i may as well wear a sign saying that i am the easiest person to abuse because i have noone to stand up for me and help stop it and so far so many abusers have gotten away with murder. they have a way of doing very very very tormenting things that are done in such a way to put me to question so that there is nowhere i can call for help and noone who realises whats really going on and those we do just stand by in horror unable to stop the behaviour of crazy troubled poeple.