i did a million courses and counselling about boundaries

there is a limit to what i can do

if they live at home i will not tell them dont eat my food because you took your youth allowance

i cant kick them out when they are young

i often couldnt do anything when they were sick and yet they needed clothe3s and things desperately

it is much more complicated and i am sick of hearing people make simplistic answers.

i gave various examples before in this or other threads. those were situations where no standing up would protect the person and huge dmaage was done to all aspects of their lives permanent damage to them and their good name that they could not control or stop no matter what they tried.

but yes this is an issue that is attended to amongst a complex picture of immature unaware kids who will nto be made aware by talking and an often cruel mother of mine who doesnt back off with boundaries or reason when she finds a way to torment

yes i do stay away

still there have been ways they could hurt me and do . Anyway i ahve to give attention to other aspecats of my life right now i dnt want to keep going over and over it.
i do have to step back and care fo rmyself. they find ways still to torment me like this with the youth allowance. i can pay less but i'm still very upset that they do this and get away with it like my other kids have despite huge efforts courses counselling of mine over the years. the bottom line is one cant kick out young kids and this girl is a good girl she genuinedly has expenses such as social, health, driving lessons. i am still very upset that people would do this to me when my situation is so hard, jsut because they can get away with it.
boundaries is a topic i've often talked about with professionals but when you are dealing with some sick kids and cruel troubled people it is often differnt. oen time i did take a very very very strong legal stand and took action and my son thanked me saying it forced him into counselling that changed him, but at the same time many peole worked against me and tormented me during that time and since not understanding why i did that.
this child doesnt need that but this is still upsetting fo rme that jsut because they can get away with it they do when other kids would not dare do such a thing

there are many ways people can torment with no protection whatsover and they do.