Oh dinky, I'd be so disappointed after that meeting too. I'm really concerned that it sounds like this teacher doesn't really like your daughter and has a negative view of her. That's not a good environment for your daughter to be in. If she's always being told what she does isn't good enough or clever enough then it's going to really impact her love for learning and confidence in her abilities. I think you need to follow up with another meeting to try and discuss it all more.

As for the discussion on meeting a teacher, I am surprised that you didn't make time in the first week of school to be there for a pick up and to meet her teacher at least once. To meet the teacher for the first time mid-year seems odd. But regardless of that I do think you should have been notified when your daughter was sent to the principal's office and when plans were being made such as not allowing her to spend time with a certain friend. I'd be questioning the principal about that and just letting them know you are keen to be kept in the loop and you are available for meetings if they contact you.