I was hoping you'd come in here

I think she is trying her best to hang on, but atm her best is failing her. It's just so heartbreaking. Her IL's does take dd three days a week when she is at school, but she is not satisfied with the way they are handeling her (the dd - and truthfully they are overstepping in some ways) and her MIL is not a very healthy woman, so she does not want dd to overstay her welcome. I know her SIL would look after her dd in a heartbeat, but she is complaining about her also. The SIL don't have any kids of her own are still young (24 pffft) and does things differntly than her, so she is not comfy with leaving dd with her for long periods (anything over a quick trip to the shop) Which in my opion is her own fault, because she is not teaching her SIL how she would like her dd to be cared for. The SIL has a child-play-school (learn through play or something like that) so it's not like she is a stranger to young kids.

Personally I think by talking to her directly it might help, just to have her "download" a bit on someone. And maybe help her tighten her "headreigns". Her head are all over the place, so nothing gets done, and that is adding to her problems. It's also not helping that in their house, her husband are in charge of the cash, so she has no clue as to what accounts has to be settled and stuff like that.

About her fears .. unjustified imo. Our crimerate is not higher than any town in the area and she lives in the quite side of town. She lives in a security complex, atm there are only three houses, one of which is her IL's (this may also be the reason they don't get along .. to close for comfort) She has an up-to-date alarmsystem with armed reaction. We use the same security-company at the shop that does her house and they are TOP notch. So I can't see why she can be afraid. I don't know her past very well, so maybe something happend that just makes her this scared. But everytime I askes about why she is scared, she just says that she is being silly and have to try sleeping alone one time or other.

See I feel that way too .. I'm thinking her dd is whiny and stressed, because she is stressed and they are picking up each others negative vibes and it's ruining them. I'm also picking up vibes that him being away for so long is hurting their mariage ... she went up there for the school vacation for two weeks (she just got back Monday) and they had a HUGE fight because he went hunting one NIGHT from 5pm till 6am. She was furious because they had so little time together and then he plans a hunting trip while she's there.