Another Single mum to be

[samm]

thank you everyone for your support!

Yes i do have family support & a wider friend network so whilst i know it will be hard work i have the right people around

Hoobley - i think your comment about not wanting to go through what he went through with his DS is correct. He is being nice and calm in our conversations and is not horrible at all as this is due to how long we've known each other. With this ex i saw what it did to him & i supported him through that but i think now instead of me always being worried about his siutation i know need to decide mine.

Thanks for all of the great advice - its nice having people who are positive.

[jmmum]

Hey Samm,
Seems things are settling for you a little. Just be true to yourself in whatever decision you make. Have no regrets. Feel comfort in the fact that the people who love you will support you.

[Uncle Amy]

Hi Samm,

I'm in similar basket, I really agonised over the fact that the fertiliser was unwilling. I was and still am upset that he couldn't just say "O.K". When you are searching for peace, look for it in the 'things I can't control' folder. Distance is the safest bet. You are in two different places about this and right now you have inly enough space to look after you and the babe. He's an adult and can look after himself. Dont write things or say things you might regret - write them but DONT send them, they will haunt you and you WILL be emotional about this. acknowlege what he has to say, but dont let him drum you over the head with his opinion, get the gist, then GET OUT of there. I've had 2 experiences with 2 different men 'friends', unfortunately I miscarried one AND I let him get under my skin about HIS pain. You know you are on your own now, get the support from ANYWHERE and EVEYWHERE EXCEPT HIM, the dissapointment can be excruciating. They joy of parenting is sublime. Life gives just as it takes away, try not to mourn what you don't have and stay focussed on ALL the POSITIVES. I'm cheering for you!

[jmmum]

Samm,

Hoping life is being kind to you. We seem to cut this guy a lot of slack. Is he worthy of it? Just thinking out loud!
Wait til you hold your bub in your arms and all the hastle will just melt away. I have not one single regret about having my DD. It is 99.9% fantastic. Happy to answer any questions you may have. Feel free to Pm me.
Take Care.

[samm]

Hello there!
It's been a while since i've last posted - sorry!! I've asked the Dad to let me deal with it in peace and to his credit he has. No Jmumm - he was and still actaully good about this and has never forced his view - so i've cut him some slack but i've also kept it open ended in case he changes his mind later down the track.But it's all very peaceful without me worrying about him as well.

Well i'm now officially 11 weeks and 5 days with my due date being March 1. First sight of bub was scary but beautiful and it looks like everything is ok.get te results of tests etc on Saturday. Bub loved the camera apparently at at this early stage looks like a DS. My mum and sister in law are elated and basically do everything for me - so i doubt i'll need to do all that much!!!

All i can say at the moment is thank goodness for the Elevit as i was exhausted up until last weekend when one of my friends recommended me to take it. A god send!!!!

I am starting to get excited - especailly now i've actually seen pic's & tonight after getting pampered at the hairdressers - i feel fab!!i figured if i am going to be a mum i may as well look great and be the mum withthe funky coloured hair and cut!!!

Thanks everyone for their great advice & support - it's certainly helped make the thought struggle easier!!!