thank you everyone for your support!

Yes i do have family support & a wider friend network so whilst i know it will be hard work i have the right people around

Hoobley - i think your comment about not wanting to go through what he went through with his DS is correct. He is being nice and calm in our conversations and is not horrible at all as this is due to how long we've known each other. With this ex i saw what it did to him & i supported him through that but i think now instead of me always being worried about his siutation i know need to decide mine.

Thanks for all of the great advice - its nice having people who are positive.