so sorry to hear and i know its a very difficult place to be in, i found myself in the same situation some years ago.

You'll likely go thru a very difficult time, its like loosing a loved one even though they are still there. The first thing you'll go thru is disbelief, then perhaps anger, then depression...be prepared for a bit of a rollercoaster ride....and one you'll probably be on for the next couple of years at least.

Definately ask him if he's willing to go to councelling with you...and if he's not willing (like my ex) then go for yourself because you'll need to have someone to offload all the emotions you'll be going thru.

Councelling should help you make a decision on how to deal with the situation that suits you and your needs. My only advice is to not make any decisions immediately because you just dont know how you'll feel over the coming months, or if he'll have a change of heart.