You might think I'm giving in too easily but I can't be the only one fighting for our marriage and family. I know him well enough to know when he has made up his mind.I think it will be good for me to go to councelling to help me deal with this. I'm just soo devasted for me and my DD and that my whole future life that I thought I had together with him is now not going to happen.
Very sorry to hear that.

But you're absolutely right. One person cannot make a marriage work. If he is not willing to try, then there is nothing you can do about it except keep the door open if thats what you want to do.

The only good thing is that you have to be separated for 1 year before you can apply for a divorce, so there is still a year for things to change. He may realise that being apart is not as great as he thought it would be.