Bombshell

[Peg]

You might think I'm giving in too easily but I can't be the only one fighting for our marriage and family. I know him well enough to know when he has made up his mind.I think it will be good for me to go to councelling to help me deal with this. I'm just soo devasted for me and my DD and that my whole future life that I thought I had together with him is now not going to happen.

Very sorry to hear that.

But you're absolutely right. One person cannot make a marriage work. If he is not willing to try, then there is nothing you can do about it except keep the door open if thats what you want to do.

The only good thing is that you have to be separated for 1 year before you can apply for a divorce, so there is still a year for things to change. He may realise that being apart is not as great as he thought it would be.

[claude]

Liz Jessie - I'm in inner Northern suburbs of Perth, so rockingham is a bit far for me, but a BIG thank you for that offer.

[fionas]

I'm really sorry you're in this situation claude - you're absolutely right that you can't make him want to work at it. You sound very together under the circumstances.

[Chocaholic]

You sound like an amazing woman to hold yourself together so well after such a bombshell.

Good luck in trying to work out everything amicably with your husband. It will be very hard and very emotional as I'm sure you know.

My suggestion is if you feel like you are getting emotional when you are working through it all, take a break for 5 mins to get yourself under control. Otherwise, it will make a difficult situation more harrowing and may cause issues if your husband gets defensive. Take as long as YOU need to get it sorted out and don't give in to him in the hopes that he will see what he is losing. He has made a bad decision and while he may not realise it now, when you and your DD have started on a new life together, I think he will realise just what he gave up.

Good luck with everything.

[claude]

Just called my parents in the UK to tell them the news, that was really hard. They feel so far away. This was the conversation I was dreading the most so at least it is over. They will be able to tell my sister and the rest of the my family so at least I don't have to deal with that. God this is hard

[Cassius2]

big big

am thinking of you babe xx

[loulabelle]

Just sending you some hugs.x

[Ellee05]

Claude, I don't know how I missed this thread. I just wanted to give you some I too am facing separation at the moment with an 8month old, it is tough and mine is only just beginning.

FWIW while things are amicable between you both at the moment, unfortunately things can get out of hand when emotions fly (it doesn't sound like it will) but I think getting some legal advice would be worth your while. Just to have the knowledge in the back of your head.

The girls on here are an amazing wealth of support and knowledge so please continue to use BB for support... you'll never be alone.

Sending much cyber love, support and strength your way.

[widdly]

sending you the HUGEST hug in the world xxxxxxxxxxxx

You just need to do what you know is best. We can all come in here and tell you to get counselling and work at things, but only you know what needs to be done.

The girls in here are the most incredible support, so be sure to come and vent in here when ever you need x