Hi Melby,

I agree that your Ex P is attempting to bully you. BB is a great place to get support in these situations.

I work as a family law solicitor. I cannot give you advice specific to your situation. I can say however that the law regarding relocation has changed alot in the last few years since the shared parenting legislation took effect. BG is generally correct - the court is now very focused on the best interests of the children and the court is as a starting point required to work on the basis that if possible an equal shared parenting situation is in the best interests of the children - however there is alot more to it than that - how the best interests of a child are determined in each case depends on a long list of factors including the set up in place now and the practicality of a relocation to both parties and the children.

In the circumstances my very strong advice to you is to go and get legal advice about your position based on your specific situation before you do anything and as soon as possible. The earlier the better is my view as you may be able to do things that will strategically assist you longer term. You should only take action based on that advice. Your lawyer may advise you that strategically it may no longer help you to advocate a week about shared care position or to seek to get things in writing. You should in the meantime avoid discussing the matter of relocation with your ex. You definitely should not indicate to him that you are even thinking of relocating to meet his needs. Do not agree to anything. You should continue to live your life based on things remaining the same as they have.

Keep using BB as a support tool in the meantime! We are here for you!

Should you need a referral to a lawyer in your area please feel free PM me - whilst I do not work in NSW I have had dealings with a couple of very good lawyers in Parramatta.

Good luck.

Belinda.