I have 2 girls - 3 and 5 - and currently they spend half the time with each of us (3 or 4 days at each house, depending on the week - although I am trying to get it changed to week-about).

XH and I have lived in the same area (Penrith) for almost 8 years, his family are mostly close by (parents, aunts etc who he is close to) and my family is almost non-existent. I am renting and managed to get a place within the school area for my older daughter's school, which is a great school and of course I have friends, the girls have friends, the younger one's daycare is great and they do dancing and netball as well as an endless stream of birthday parties, play dates etc.

DH has just moved 15 minutes away to his aunt's place til he decides what he wants to do, but he's still close enough to get to school, activities etc without too much hassle.

We both work full-time in Parramatta, but now his job is taking him more to our North Sydney office and he is looking to progress his career which could mean his job relocating permanently to North Sydney.

Now he is telling me he wants to move closer to work (at the moment he is only talking about the Parramatta area) and has now said that if I won't relocate myself (and of course the girls), that he will fight for full custody because he does not believe I can raise the girls on my own and he does not want custody to be 50/50 if we are living so far apart. I actually believe I can do it just fine.

I like where I am living, and I don't mind the commute to work (it's about an hour door to door for me cos I catch the train). I don't want to spend the next 15 years following him around wherever he goes, and I don't think he is really considering the impact of a relocation on the girls.

If he moves away for his work then tries to get full custody based on the idea that it is not practical to keep a 50/50 arrangement because of his move, would a magistrate take his side????????????????????