DD's father is a sociopath

[tanyaya]

I think Tashy babe has given you some excellent advice - hope you find the courage and conviction to decide what's right for you and to act on it.

[sirenz]

i'm sorry, I have no advice on how to move forward as I have never been in your situation.. but I just wanted to offer you a huge

I think counselling would be a huge help for you.

[*The_Mrs.*]

Tashy- Your advice was amazing and brought a smile to my face. I am currently in counseling and it is helping. I agree that I need to love myself first. I have always been in relationships since I was old enough to start. I want to be a good role model to DD and show EF has no longer has any rein on me...

I can't wait to be ok

[Yas]

Jess- Im so sorry this happened to you and your DD. EF seriously needs a whack up the side of the head. I hope the councilling is helping you, and just be gentle with yourself hun, you've been through so much. Don't stress about DD, she will cope hun, and she will not be damaged from this. You have to concerntrate on yourself for a little while
Anyway, i just wanted to say how sorry i was It's just so horrible. xoxoxoxoxoxo

[Footsteps]

Huge hugs huni xxx

[Cranky Kitten]

Hon, Tashybabe hit the nail on the head, and I'm glad you're getting some counselling to help you through. Definitely work on you getting yourself right - for your own self and for your beautiful girl. Don't rush headlong into another relationship, no matter how lonely you feel - take time to get to know yourself again, to be the strong amazing wonderful woman we know you are.

Later, when you're ready, you will be able to go into another partnership with your eyes wide open and the knowledge that you are strong, you are wise and that you are worthy of true, generous love.

And being ok is a journey. All journeys start by taking that very first step, sure you will fall down some, scrape your knees but always, always get back up and keep on taking that next step.

[Gigi]

hi Jessica, i'm sorry you're going thru such a rotten patch.

I can relate to some of what you write, i left a toxic r'ship late last year, so hard to do.

Coping with the new life as a single mother, it's felt like a whirlwind, and it's huge, you have so much responsibility, at the precise time you feel like your world is collapsing around you.

I think i had to be so strong, at the actual "moving out, setting up new place, loads of things going wrong" time, now that things are settling down, i am going to pieces too, not feeling like i'm "being there" for my DD (who is 4).

It's really boring for her, when ALL i have energy to do, is sit on the couch and watch too much tv. She wants to do normal things like get taken to playgrounds, play catch and ride her bike. I'm not up to that and get the guilts really bad about it.

When she sees her dad, he acts like Father of the YEar too, but pays zero Child Support. so i relate to your post. i was proposed to, but he never even filled out the Wedding registration forms, so we never got married. I think he just proposed cos he knew getting married, was important to me.

The whole r'ship was a series of unkept promises. Saying YES really fast, but not making any plans to carry through with the promises.

it's horrible being lied to especially by the person you thought you would love forever and grow old with

you're right, even babies pick up on their mother's feelings and state of mind. babies understand things long before they can talk. but they also accept you, love you and give you the most loving of smiles. when you feel your darkest, their smiles can lift you up.