Failure

[Butterfly Dawn]

Oh hun big hugs

[nothing2lose]

Pumpkin, you know what? I bet you a million bucks there isn't a mother on this site that hasn't done the exact same thing. I know I have...

Parenthood is a bloody tough gig. Combine being a first time new parent with what you are going through at the moment, makes it expotentially harder.

You are not a failure. You aren't even close. And little Isla Mae isn't suffering at all. She has a mum who is making sure she is warm and snug, clean with a full belly. She knows you love her. That, I can promise you.

Be kind to yourself and take care x

ETA: I should point out I don't actually have a million bucks but I think my money would be pretty safe if I did x

[Traveller]

All your DD needs to know you love her is a clean bum and a full tummy. You are doing an amazing job and I am certain she could not have a more loving mother looking after her. Have you been to see your GP to let them know how you are feeling? There could be some support they could offer (not necessarily medication) that would help you feel stronger again.

[kelebek]

please don't ask me the number of times that I asked OH if I could take DS back to the hospital in those first weeks and I wasn't going through what you are.

She is too young to know any different, she knows she is loved cause you are changing her bum, you are feeding her, you are meeting her needs. She doesn't really know what play is at the moment so she can't miss something she doesn't know about.

You are going through a really stressful time, it is ok to cry for days on end... at some point the tears will stop and by working through it you are rebuilding your strength. Take this time to process.

I would suggest that you plan an outing in the next couple of days... even it if it's to the shops for some window shopping, that way you have to have a shower, you have to put on clean clothes and you will get some fresh air be gentle on yourself

[*LittleMissSummer*]

You wanna know somethin'? I didn't even go through anything like you are going through and i spent most days like that..

You are going through a lot and its ok to grieve it doesn't make you a bad person at all. She is still so young so sleeping, eating and pooping is all she is going to do. Don't be so hard on yourself remember its not you who made everything this way.

MASSIVE

[briggsy's girl]

no way are you a failure

grief screws you up - and you are grieving the life you thought you had and what should have been

you're a new mummy, still finding her feet

and you're doing all you NEED to do. yup, playing extra games is fantastic - but we ALL go through periods where it's just too much. you are meeting Isla's essential needs, allowing yourself to grieve so that you CAN move forward, one way or another. Isla would tell you if she needed more. she wouldn't settle, she wouldn't feed - but she is - which means you're doing all she needs you to do

Don't be so damn hard on yourself. the only expectations you are failing are your own - i know we all believe we should be supermum's - but sometimes we have to shelve those expectations of ourselves and just accept we're mortal, we have weaknesses - and that it's ok to feel those mortal feelings and grieve.