your right babe he is the one missing out and he will realise too little too late.
But in the meantime you are the one that sees the fallout of his absence, mops up the tears when he lets them down and has to listen to his crap when he blames you that the kids dont listen to him or want to see him!

it sucks the big one!!!! Men are eggs!

Your babies are so very lucky to have such a wonderful caring mum, and you are doing a wonderful job, be proud of yourself.