ok so in a nut shell, we have just split up and XP due to dishonesty and trust issues with XP. So now he want s access to our son every 2nd weekend and thats ok i just disagree with the enviroment that he wants to have our son in. He currently lives with 3 other young men aged approx 20-23. we have been seperated for 9 months and i rarely took our son there as they were unable to keep the place clean and our son would find everything. There is also heavy drinking and drug use that happens in the house and even though XP promises it won't be done infront of our son, i feel it is unreasonable for him to displace the entire houshold in order for him to have access and that even though the drugs and drinking may not be done infront of our son, that it is an unhealthy culture for our to be raisede around. XP says that there will be no more drugs done at the house at all, but i'll never know if they are just lying to me. There were occasions that we had visited XP for the afternoon and been forced to leave because his housemates came back with grog and weed.

I don't know what to do to protect my son from being raised in this enviroment. I stipulated that if wanted access he had to get his own place or go to his mums or dads. I am giving him access to russell in my home atm but thats all. I really need some help to protect my son. i dont want to go to court but feel i will have to because XP seems to care more about the world as it relates to him and his hip pocket. the only reason he won't get his own place is the cost. I think its important that our son lives in an open and happy enviroment where he can do as he pleases when hes with his dad. the current situation will have our son confined to a area under the house near his dads room. please help me