we are doing the mediation at his insistance.i didn't feel it was initially necessary initally, however now it is. As for the trust thing. NO i dont feel i can trust him becasue at one point he told me he would juust take him home. His mum agrees that the house is safe if he cleans it up , gets the right locks and gates and they don't do the drinking and drugs infront of him. He is is epecting all the ppl living in his house to change their behaviour and lifestyle and i don't think its a long term solution.

When i said about getting his own place and what he would be gained he turned around and told me he would be loosing money. that scared me that the cost of providing a safe enviroment for his son was more important than the benefits of familar stable and safe enviroment for them to bond in and call their own. I don't want to keep him from XP it has benefits for me, i can have a life. but i feel if i release him into his care into that enviroment that i am not fulfilling my role as his prmary carer, his mum or his protector and advocate