hey, thanks heaps for all your feedback.
Yeah my ex doesnt contribute financialy at all. And at the moment Im happy with this. I think right now it would make an already confusing situation even more so. But i think setting some boundries around his vists is what I need to do. And I want my ex to be a part of his sons life, I know how important it is to to have a dad in a childs life. But right now he is taking the easy option and hiding behind his parents. thanks for your advice - just so hard to know what the right thing to do is. I never want to make waves and always want to keep the peace and balance sometimes to the point where I let people walk all over me. I dont limit access to my sons paternal grandma, she has been very supportive and I know how important it is for him to have that connection with them and that side of his family. I still have trouble talking to my ex, I think beacuse he hurt me so much, when I see him it brings it all back up for me. But I think I will have to bite the bullet and see what happens
This site is really a great forum for mums just to know they arent alone and they arent the only ones going through this stuff. Thanks again!
xx Kira