:hugs: I have to admit, I've been there myself, the whole drinking, competing with mates and a RANGE of other immature things.

DD and I DID it on our own for many years - you too can do it

I do not receive any child supprt from him - to the both of us, he does not exist. DD doesnt ask about him, doesnt talk about him. We are happy and have been much happier without the garbage (just like what ur going through) I am lucky in one perspective tho - he is not in the country. Life would most definately be diffucult if he was.

And FYI - I am now with someone who treats both of us well and works WITH me rather than against me

You too will have that one day! But for now, make small goals for yourself to get through your tough times.

I wish you and ur bubba's all the best and I hope ur XP doesnt hassle you too much or give grief