Hi Molly,

i know how you feel as will most here at BB and this forum and site has provided me with some advice and support. as a single mum and now 26 weeks pregnant.

i too was left by someone who i am in love with when i found out i was 8 weeks pregnant. Although being nice about it he didnt want to be a dad, he is a guy who at 42 is still sowing his oats and having fun with life with no committments. He is in NZ 2 weeks a month .

My advice, and this is what got me though some of the intial pain,lonlienss and anxiety about being pregnant , is to acknowledge the type of guy your BF is and instead of worrying about him, use your support network to give you strength and support and do things that are right for you and your bub. i found i spent more time worrying about him and his feelings rather than my own which sapped a lot of my energy and increased my stress levels. You cant force someone to do somehting they either arent ready for or dont want to be involved.

I found that once i opened up here and to some friends and support people i wasnt on my own, even though still i miss my relationship with my babys dad as we were extremely good friends on top of our relationship.

Right now i am enjoying my pregnancy and the planning around the impending birth of my little girl, from there i'll take one day at a time and work out whats right for me and my bub. to be honest its taken me around 4 months to get to that point and its not easy but you will see that you are a strong woman and it's amazing what we can actually do when the going gets tough.

Keep smiling and know you are not alone