No judgement here Darling, take a deep and give your own self time to heal from this and learn about yourself x
New relationships are easy. The excitement, touch, butterflies. That's why they call it 'Falling in Love', because you are 'Falling', it's easy, no work is needed, it's fun.
But being in a relationship, in a Marriage, is damn hard work. And sometimes, maybe all the time it seems like work. But learning to love each other for who they are and accepting things aren't always going to by rosy and easy for you both. It's teamwork and friendship that will get you through.
I'm not saying go back with your husband for your kids, hey, I'd rather come from a broken marriage than live in one, but give yourself the gift of trying absolutely everything in your power to work things out with him, in a friendly nonjudgmental way, so at least if things don't work out for you both, you gave it your best shot, and then can move forward with life xxx
As I said, no strong opinions on my behalf, but give the married man the arse, he doesn't deserve your energy and time. If being with your husband is that bad, focus on your kids, and healing yourself, not this guy.
Take care honey, I hope in the future you and your children can be happy xxx
No judgement - it sounds like you have been terrribly lonely and this new relationship is just what you need to boost your esteem and confidence. If your ex is trying to get you back then maybe you both need to start from scratch and he needs to woo you and show you that he is serious (and that it's not that he is just lonely and wants you to do stuff around the house etc) - maybe you need him to romance you and get you to fall in love with him again if it is going to work.
thank you. you are both so right.
i feel guilty that i am not using my time wisely to focus on my children and myself, but at the same time i have been so lonely and the distraction of having someone interested in me is exactly that, distracting me from my troubles, which is both good and bad.
i guess i just need more time.
and yes if we tried again it would literally need to be from scratch with dates and romance and getting to know each other all over again & also some counselling to work on our communication which is non existent.
i guess i still feel very unsettled and very much still in limbo and i'm searching for answers just to know what i am doing and what the future holds.
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