Single parent or parent to be Chat

[Miranda]

Hi thought i would say hello. I 'm single 29weeks and have two boy's 4 and 2 years. Having heaps of problems with custody over the kids, property settlement and divorce papers. Anybody out there going through simular stuff or want any advice i have been battling for 12 months now, i can possibly make suggestions to help. Would love somebody to chat with seems like something new troubles me every day.

[Beatrix]

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[Miranda]

Thanks for replying how did you manage to stay away from the custody battle which is my biggest problem. The two boys have a gay father (omg) killed me to find out and the baby i'm carring his father decided life was to hard with a premade family so wants to take the baby after the birth and only give me limited visitation i'm so devo don't know what to do next.

[Beatrix]

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[morgan78]

Hi there...im not quite single yet but after giving DP until the end of Sept (4 weeks ago) to pick his game up with our relationship nothing has changed and he refuses to go to counselling so I decided that come the end of Sept we will be separating and i am currently in the process of organising my finances etc
Its pretty sad really that he doesnt feel our relationship is worth swallowing his pride and getting help but then again Id rather find out now than in 20 years when the kids are gone.

[Miranda]

Thanks girls for your input. I think of myself as a good mum i don't drink smoke or do any drugs for a start. I spend every bit of money on my kids trying to give them the best life i can. I Put the money out and got my 4 yr old counselling after the separation also some help for his speach and level of interest in learning. I spend all my time with them doing puzzles, riding bikes, going to play group ect... I breast fed both boy's till 14months and plan to feed this bubby too, it's very important to me to give them that fighting chance any way possible. When it comes to men getting help they will almost every time refuse. I had my ex husband to do anger management and parenting classes through mediation when we had our court oders done up. He had to complete those before his visitation could start. Just a suggestion for those with that sort of ex. For those people who can't afford a solicitor i recommend centrecare they were great but before doing the mediation you should research as much as you can using the net, books, others experiences anything and don't sign anything you don't agree with make sure you are completely happy with the parenting plan and that you can live by it till it needs to be reviewed. It is very hard to charge the arrangments when your ex is hard to get along with. you can find very good parenting plan examples on the net and they are the same as court orders but the contents is decided by both parents. When signed they hold just as much weight in court as the court orders. I hope some of this could be helpful to someone if you want to know any more or i could forward on some great examples so you have an idea of what things you should think about before going it that mediation room.

[smiles4u]

Message for MIS_TREE , ... I have one thing to say " Seth is very lucky to have you as his Mother ... as for his Dad how cruel as his actions in the end effect his very own son ... what an immature act on his behalf ... You keep on doing the beautiful job that you DO in being Seth's Mother "

(hope for your sake you don't have to deal with your EX's family much with their behavior towards you ... takes a stronger person to be KIND & a weak person to be the opposite)