Separated since: Never lived together, split when bubs was about 2 or 3 weeks old
Care arrangements: With myself, his Dad visits here three times a week, Nanna (my Mum) takes him one day a week
Biggest challenge: Dealing with his Dad's verbal abuse that is on and off
General: I thought that I would probably be a single Mum, when I discovered that I was pregnant. It's been exhausting trying to plan for all contingencies during the pregnancy. I've always lived alone though so in some ways I guess it's been less of an upheaval. Making a lot of decisions isn't new to me, but I'm disappointed I don't have that live in sounding board I suppose. Also there's not many photos of bubs and me together (as I would like), just of bubby doing things on his own.
Separated since: January 2003 -- a few weeks after we found out I was pregnant
Care arrangements?: I have sole legal and physical custody, however he has recently begun weekly visits (2.25 hours a week).
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Being everything.
General comments: My ex decided that he really did not want another child a few weeks after I found out I was pregnant. We separated immediately, and he did not meet my daughter until she was 26 months old. There were a few visits over the next two years, then no contact from him for two years. When she was almost 6 1/2 he went to court seeking visitation, and has been granted one visit a week.
Separated since: today (Valentines Day how romantic!!!)
Care arrangements: He hasn't left yet. Still working it out. He will move out eventually but it is amicable so no rush yet. Want DS to get used to idea.
Biggest challenge: Attachment parenting through separation!!! Is it possible???
General: Feeling excited at the same time as sad. It is a relief now that DH and I have finally acknowledged what we have denied for years. I really think things will be better now.
Username: Rooey5
Real name: Helen
Number of children: 1 - almost 2.5 year old
Seperated since: April 2012
Care arrangements: At the moment I have DS full time. The ex is playing games, have my individual mediation session on Monday
Biggest Challenge: Learning that I was not responsible for his abusive treatment of me, and learning to cope with the continued attempts at abuse and control.
General comments: I'm so glad that BB exists! I'm growing stronger by the day, but I haven't heard from him in over a month so I may crumble to pieces again when he finally does rear his head. Just trying to be the best mum I can be to my boy and do what's best for him.
Username: bubno.3 im 42
Name (just in case not telling)
No. of children: 3 ds 12 ds 4 ds 2 (nearly in oct)
Seperation: married 2 yrs together 4 April 2011 officially i shouldve told him to leave when i was told i had an affair a few weeks after the wedding... and 2 yrs to the day i took the kids and left!
Care: we do 50 50 now (only so i can work) and the ds12 his dad/oma have him when the two little ones spend the week with their dad.
Challenges: mentally getting through the first 12 months with the harrassement and continuing abuse....
18 months later : he has moved on and become a dad again and he is still being passively aggressive but it goes in ear and out the other plus i have thick skin now which he hates ..The big thing was the money but that is sorting itself out now we do the 50 care
Im loving my life now im happy although i found who my friends were and sad to say my bridesmaids werent true friends.
general comment : love bb my saving grace my sanity my friend
Username:elcee2006
Real name:elcee2006 Number of children:2. DD 9yo, DS 6yo Separated since:since pregnant, but officially nov 2011 Care arrangements?:kids full time with me Biggest challenge as a single parent?:i dont know how to fix car, i dont know how to assemble push bike and I can not be a father (thaaa). General comments: He left me n kids to another woman and he got lots debts which left me anothre debt bcos the prop settlement that i got bills from lowyer i mean lawyer/soli****tor! I dont have best friends or close friends that i can talk to, only neighbour and friend that they have their own friends and close relatives n I dont have any relatives in here too.
my kids and I hate weekends, public hols, school hols, new years eve, new year and evrything that not working days.....*sigh*
Please anyone PM me....
Username: Pandora
Number of children: 2
Separated since: Dec 2011
Care arrangements?: 50/50
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Dealing with his manipulation of my kids and his ongoing passive aggressive behaviour.
General comments: My kids are still quite young and having a hard time getting their heads around what his happening, especially as he has manipulated the situation from the beginning. When we were separated under the same roof he had DS1 sleep in the spare room with him til it got the the point he coulddle sleep alona nd when XH moved out and we went to a 50/50 care arrangement it was very sad/difficult to get him sleeping in his own room again.
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