hi uncle amy,
i was a single mother from 5 months pregnant, i broke up with XP because he was a dropkick with serious mental and emotional issues, and lucky me didn't find out about those little quirks until after i fell pregnant... *sigh*
so yes, congratulations on choosing life as well!
i think when a woman falls pregnant, she kinda knows deep down whether or not the pregnancy is meant to be... sounds corny i know... owell life is pretty corny when you think about it... although it can be quite a ***** as well...
Do you know where TF lives? you could try writing him a letter... writing a letter is the best way to get your point across, they will most definately read the whole thing because if they dont the suspense of not knowing what was in there will kill them! and also they can't hang up on you, talk back to you, cut you off, or be an ass in any way! its great, you'll get you're issues off your chest and feel so much better trust me

you know, this may sound a bit selfish and evil of me, but i think you're lucky the father wants nothing to do with you and your DS, its a lot better than if he was threatening you to take him away from you or turning up at your house all the time demanding to see him... my XP was a bit like that after i broke up with him n was still pregnant, he would threaten me that he was going to get a court order to be present at the birth(i almost died of laughter when he said that because theres no such thing), or he would take me to court and take him off me, and that he would find me and see his son with or without my permission etc... at that point i cut contact with the bastard completely, i've since moved interstate & he only has my phone number now, no address or anything, and none of my friends or family will talk to him so i'm pretty safe...
but yeah, just write him a letter, you never know, and if he still doesn't want a bar of you then don't worry about him, the quicker you forget about him the quicker you can get on with your life and be happy once again!
ok, enough babble from me i think...

ciao
mel